No matter how rough she’s been sanded by the hardships of life, she still has a soft side to her. She wants to be courted and romanced. She desires to be desired and loved. –Melvin Davis
The spirit of a woman is her true self, a side she seldom show to anyone, except her creator, and maybe a close friend/prayer partner. You can sit side by side by a woman and feel eons apart. Imagine being in a relationship with a woman feeling this way and “trying” to “make” “love” to her that matter. The results: an offbeat, difficult, pretentious, make-believe sounds of pleasure. Lovemaking should not be a challenge or difficult. It should be a smooth transition to go into. However, when you know a woman beyond her outer beauty, beyond her wall of defense, and beyond her heart, you have a wonderful opportunity to know her, but this can only be accomplished by speaking her love language of intimacy.
Part I and II of Love Her Love Language and Articulate it Confidently, my thoughts of what I think women want are couched in speaking her love language of friendship, keeping things simple, communicating effectively with her and having the ability to be transparent and vulnerable with her. To pause here for a second: a man must be patient, cautious and particular in whom he chooses to reveal and share these aspects with. Not everyone is mature enough for love, nor does everyone has a sincere desire to give and receive it. There are certain aspects of myself that I have revealed to certain women than others. One or two conversations is all I need with a woman to see she’s open and understanding to a guy like me. All of these things will enable her to find a place of comfort and security within you. In this blog, I want to push things a little bit deeper, slightly on the spiritual side although maintaining a sense of naturalism here. In other words, no matter who spiritual and holy you position yourself to be, you cannot be to spiritual and holy to the point that you suppress what you have been created to do. You are created to give and receive love. We as human beings have a desire to be touched, hugged, kissed, affirmed, complimented, in sum, affectionate and loved. At any rate, there are a few things that need to be set in motion before all these things can happen, and for you to experience the power of touch, the hug, and the kiss of someone who you feel very strongly for. When you feel a deep, close-knit connection of intimacy within someone, you are one.
What comes to mind when you hear the word intimacy is, sad to say, sex, or, if you’re with someone you’re in love with, lovemaking. Lovemaking is one aspect of intimacy, but it isn’t the only side to it. I’m sure my take on intimacy isn’t new but I want to expand, introduce for some, reintroduce for others, the core, and the essence of truly connecting to a woman beyond her heart. In order to connect to a woman beyond her heart, you must speak her love language of intimacy.