People stay in unhealthy relationships because they found a way to love what’s not good for them.–Melvin Davis

You have received signs after signs, red flags after red flags that you’re relationship cannot and will not work, yet you to stay in it out of convenience to have familiar “intimacy” on call, and because you don’t want to go through the breakup process, you will eventually find a way to love what’s unhealthy for you.  You’re lowering your standards here and your self-worth. But not only that, you giving away time you cannot get back and you’re stopping the person who really meant to be in your life.  Desire to be with someone who will respect and love you unconditionally. Don’t desire what’s dysfunctional.

As you continue on in this relationship that brings you discomfort while you’re in that persons presence, and sigh deeply when they depart, ask yourself is he or she really worth it and is your worth value enough to walk away.

Don’t think you’re doing right by staying with person out of fear of ruining their world. Do what’s right for the sake of you. It’s time to stop talking to family and friends about your issues. It’s time to listen to the love you have yourself telling you to leave.


Walking Away from an Unhealthy Relationship


12 thoughts on “Walking Away from an Unhealthy Relationship

  1. Anonymous says:

    i appreciate this blog it really speaks to my situation and in doing so has given me a moment of clarity that has allowed me to step out of myself and view my relationship logically , ultimately exposing the dysfunction that has consumed my happiness all this time. i gotta get out ! thanks

    • Melvin Davis says:

      I’m overwhelmed with joy and at the same time elated that you’re making a decision of change. I applaud the courage you have to take a step to move on with no intentions of looking back.

      Stay committed to what you have to do. You will find someone that will appreciate you, but the only way you’ll find that out is by letting go. Let go.

      • tk says:

        i think sometimes we feel the need to be loved,but just anyone..that we fall for anything that “comes close” to it…

      • Melvin Davis says:

        You’re right about the temptation of committing to someone who may appear to be the one for us, which is why it’s so important to be connected to God. He will let you know who is or isn’t the one of you 🙂

      • tk says:


        You cant base ur life around someone..whether it be ur mother,ur father,boyfriend,brother,sister etc…Put God first and all will go right..not perfect..but whats right in Gods eyes.(even if u may not c it that way @ times).Have faith in Him,and he wil not dissapoint.

  2. Anonymous says:

    It is always a pleasure reading your thoughts. Your views are far from just being entertainment, but also mirror to review within.

    • Melvin Davis says:

      Thanks for reading my work and letting me know you find pleasure in it. It’s always refreshing to hear/read this.

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