Friend’s Before Lovers: Building a Relationship to Last it’s Lifetime

A relationship with the love of your life begins at the moment you develop a friendship with them. —Melvin Davis

After you waited patiently for love, one of the greatest feelings in the world is finding someone who get’s you. Immediately, you feel a sense of oneness. There’s also a pleasant high of excitement, a sigh of relief, coupled with a pinch of peace and security. And to put the whip cream on the white chocolate mocha, my apologies for interjecting my choice of drink here if I decide to go with coffee: meeting someone who’s good-looking with good moral and ethical standards, a person of integrity, a person who knows what they want out of life, may seem too good to be true. Nonetheless, you’ve stumbled upon, in what I call, a great thing. At this point, you’re thinking, “What could go wrong? I finally met the person I prayed and waited for long for. I’m ready for a relationship. Let’s do it. Lets commit.” But wait just a second before you put the key into the ignition to drive the car off the lot. How about inspecting, getting to know the interior and exterior of the vehicle before you take a trip to the car dealership. In other words, take time to know each other’s history. In a way, being intimate before developing something meaningful with a person devalues the potential of a great relationship that could be, but I’ll expound on that in part I of this blog series. There’s something noteworthy about befriending someone first, before you enter a committed relationship with them. In this blog series, I will focus on how to develop a friendship with someone without being intimate. And to tackle the question ahead: is it possible to focus on a friendship with someone you’re attracted to as more than a friend. Seeing someone as more than a friend while trying to develop a friendship with that special person is quite tricky and often make matters complicated. I think it would be also necessary to give a clear and definitive definition of the word “intimacy,” for the sake of expanding the definition so sex doesn’t’ come to mind. It is possible to experience within a friendship.


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