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The Right Time to End an Unhealthy Relationship

Your purpose is always speaking to you, telling you what should or should not be a part of your life. This is the time to let go of an unhealthy relationship. –Melvin Davis

Chris Brown’s “There’s never a right time to say goodbye” was a song many people could relate to who were in an unhealthy relationship. Other’s may have reflected on past horrid relationships, but were thankful, in tears, to have mustered the strength to close a chapter and move forward with life. While the cliché “there’s never a right time to say goodbye” may ring true, because no one wants to hurt anyone’s feelings by telling them “I’m not happy with you,” or even deal with emotional aftermath of a breakup, but I believe there is a right time to say goodbye. Your purpose will speak to you when something is wrong.

The right time to end an unhealthy relationship is when your purpose speaks to you in a quite, peaceful voice. Your purpose is always speaking to you. During this revelatory time, or an epiphany if you want to call it, your emotions sits still, and your heart is totally open to change, no matter how painful ending the relationship maybe. These moments of change often happens when you’re driving to work or somewhere else, or when you wake up in the morning sitting at the edge of your bed, maybe when you’re watching television or out at a social gathering, then all of sudden, you feel something wrong deep down in your heart, that the person you’re in an unhealthy relationship with, doesn’t belong there. This feeling goes beyond unhappiness. It’s a feeling your life isn’t progressing anywhere because someone is preventing you from reaching your greatest potential or dreams. You could wait until next week, next month or next year to end your unhealthy relationship, but waiting will only make matters worse. The longer you stay in an unhealthy relationship; the dysfunction behavior will become the norm, making you believe the constant arguing, the psychological and verbal abuse is okay.

You can end an unhealthy relationship by listening to your purpose. Your purpose will tell what or who doesn’t belong there. The love you have for yourself will also give you strength to move on, but if you decide to stay put, you’re no longer a victim. You have become the shackle. You’re also communicating to the person who doesn’t appreciate you that it’s okay for you treat me this way.

If you want to experience happiness and to live a fulfilling life, end what will become insignificant years to come.

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4 thoughts on “The Right Time to End an Unhealthy Relationship

  1. Remember Respond Rebuild says:

    Great read, you and I share a common purpose – experiencing love !! I’ll be sure to revisit !!

    • Melvin Davis says:

      Thanks for stopping by to read and comment 🙂

      Experiencing love is an emotional, physical and spiritual happening every human being wishes to experience in life, but for me, my purpose in life is not to experience love. Writing about it is a part of my purpose.

      Thanks again…looking forward to further comments.

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