Under the umbrella of unconditional love, a disagreement or an argument doesn’t always have to be the end of a great thing. It’s an opportunity to bridge the gap of misunderstandings, to learn each other’s love language, to move closer to one another than before. —Melvin Davis

It’s easy to view argument as a negative whenever you and your significant other don’t agree on certain things. You have to keep in mind that you two are different and that you have different outlooks on life, but that’s what make a relationship intriguing and progressive.

Here are a few things I do to turn a disagreement into a positive:

1. Consider the persons point of view from where they’re at in life. I quoted once that life experiences shape the critics we become. No matter how much you to defend or deny it, but the things you’ve gone through, in some way, have impacted that way you perceive the world around you and how respond to life challenges and relationship problems. My faith has taught me a lot about patience, and understanding where people are in life as well as myself. Not everyone will have the certain level of patience and understanding you have in a relationship. To you who have patience and understanding in your relationship, and your partner doesn’t, this your opportunity to show them out of love. Sooner or later, they should start to mirror the kind of love you show them.

2. See it as an opportunity to learn more about your significant other. I know that I am complex person, and I’m sure there are other people who are too. There are things you will discover about your partner 5 and 10 years down the road. Learning how your partner think and respond to certain things will help you to not take things too personal. I believe it’s also a key to having a successful relationship.  

3. An opportunity to draw closer to one another.  Arguments can have a healthy impact.  When two people have a disagreement, they are expressing views that are contrary to each other. Again, it takes patience and understanding to accept your significant other view, although you may not always agree.

After two have defended their views like a lawyer in a high profile case, after it’s all said and done, the unconditional love and mutual respect you have for each other can bring you closer together.



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2 thoughts on “Under the umbrella of unc…

  1. Well said, Melvin. Too often, we find that people end a good relationship over a disagreement. Seems as though, many times, people don’t want to put in the work that is required to maintain a relationship. We need to stop treating people as though they are “disposable”…Jus sayin 😉

    • Melvin Davis says:

      Totally agree.

      It takes patience and mutual respect to handle a disagreement, especially when you and other person are passionate about your views.

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