On Spiritual Maturity: Sometimes we have to ignore how we feel, set aside what we see and stop talking to people about our problems. God doesn’t confuse you when He speaks. People do when they don’t understand what God is up to you in your life. —Melvin Davis
Some advice is good, but not even godly advice is always applicable to your situation. Godly advice is really personal experience tied into what God had done in that person’s life or situation. We have to be mindful that our lives and God’s will are different from other people, although your situation maybe similar from that of the friend or relative you seek advice from.
There will be moments in life when God will tell you to keep quite, to be still so you hear directly from Him. He doesn’t want you to become dependent on people to use as a guide or a voice of clarity. I have a close friend, mentor, spiritual-like advisor, whom God will cut me off from Him from months at a time so He could speak directly to me. Then when we speak, He would confirm what God has already spoken to me about. I believe that’s how a secondary source should work in our lives.
You don’t advice that’s driven by:
1. Someone’s emotional outlook on your situation.
2. That comes from someone who has romantic feelings for you.
3. Who advice is inconsistent. Whenever I see inconsistencies in someone’s advice, I stop listening.
After I give advice, I always tell that person to pray about it or to seek God. Even with all the wisdom God has blessed me with, I don’t know everything. Pray for the patience to wait on God in your situation.