Yesterday, I received a message from someone who asked if I was taken. It’s a question I often get, considering my writing content, ideas and perspectives about love and relationships, Although I’ve answered this question several times, and once before in a blog, my answer this time, may be a bit more resounding in this post.
I’m still single because there aren’t too many women out there who are going to invest and commit to a man like me. Why, because I really don’t have it altogether. I cannot provide the necessary means a woman needs to feel secure. I can’t finance a lavish and expensive lifestyle. At this point in my life, all that I have to offer is ambition, a novel on the way (LOVE AGAIN) and a dream—al of which that doesn’t suffice or cut it. I’m just a man with potential, but potential often doesn’t translate to “I wanna be with you.” It means: “I like your work. Stay focused; you’ll get there one day. I wish you well. Good luck (translation, Goodbye.”) And you know what, those women have concrete reasons and evidence to make that valid claim, when they’re looking on the surface. But what these women can’t see is that I have something more than a novel and a dream. I’ll get to that later 😉
I will never ask or persuade a woman to be with me. If she believes in her heart, that she should entertain a guy who has all what she wants, she should. In fact, I would encourage her to go the opposite direction of wherever her emotions take her. And, I’m nice enough to say a prayer for her. I would pray that she finds love, and all that she imagined and dreamed of. I understand that my situation in life is a unique one. I’m being prepared for where God is taking me, which now flows to the part of what I have besides a novel and a dream.
I have God on my side. I am man who’s walking in God’s divine purpose and will. I know where God is taking me, because I’ve seen it with my own eyes, in dreams and in visions. In fact, I had a vision yesterday. God has his hands on me, and I experience his divine presence daily. God has often spoke directly to my heart, have sent many people (strangers) in my path to help keep me focused on the bigger picture. These messages were confirmation and little reminders of how God is going to use me. He also reminds me of the foundation I will have: A foundation that’s strong enough for my purpose and love to stand on. My wife will have security, and she will be loved and adored. That’s a promise!
When I do arrive to that place of success in life, I do hope those women, who have viewed me in a positive God-fearing, admirable and respectful light, would still uphold the same perspective about me when I tell them “I’m no longer interested” or “I’ll pass.” I rather wait for the woman God has for me, because I know she’s going to love me for me, and not for what I do or what I have. If love translates into an expensive bill, I don’t want it. I’ll pass. The next man can pay for her love and affection, and for her time and attention.
I am not a good catch when you look on the surface. But if the surface is all you’re looking on, our faith and trust in God are in two different places.
Comments: To be honest, it was challenging writing this blog. I am putting myself out there. But what’s more important is that I want you to see how God will use me in the future. I want you to see my point of reference and experiences that I will teach from about love and relationships in the future. More importantly, I want you to be a part of my testimony when I marry that special woman one day.