Love is often define within the limitation of emotion. It’s God who helps you understand the emotions you feel from love are just an over flow of a spiritual connection you have with someone. I’m sure you come to experience and understand that emotions are temporal, even misleading. They’re inconsistent. They fluctuate. Feelings are based on what someone does or don’t do for you. People aren’t perfect. Neither are you. Your significant other could do or say something that’s hurtful to you–intentionally or unintentionally. In that instance of offense, the emotions you associate love with will ultimately vanish. What you called love would take on the form anger, revenge or indifference. And usually when someone feels angered, neglected or “unloved”, creating distance or cheating becomes a viable option. You must truly understand how God defines love in 1 Corinthians 13, if you’re going to have a successful courtship and marriage. When you mediate on this scripture and the two above, you’ll begin to see the heart of God and the heart of His Son Jesus and the fruit of the Holy Spirit. You’ll begin to see kindness, patience and gentleness through His grace and mercy towards you. His love doesn’t dishonor. It’s neither self-seeking. You will also see those qualities on display in the life of Jesus Christ when you study the Gospels. If emotions are what define love for you, I encourage you to make room for how you define love.
The cliché “love is a choice” rings true, but what’s more profound is that God is love. The decision to surrender your love life to God will prove to be a wise one. A successful and godly relationship rests on Christ being at the center of it. In 1 Corinthians 13, love is defined. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, the word of God tells who He wants us to experience love with, which is a person who has the heart in the hands of the Potter. A person who is equally yoked with you is a man or woman who’s given and surrendered their life to Christ and has an intimate relationship with Him. I will go in detail later of what this kind of Christian looks like according to scripture and not Melvin Davis (me) thoughts or opinions. Being in a relationship or married to an individual in Christ is what makes two equally yoked.
Being equally yoked isn’t a metaphor. The yoke of something is the core of something. The core holds everything together, so that which you have built may live and have life more abundantly. It’s the foundation that everything else rests on. “Yoke”equates to spirit. When you are intimate with someone, you become yoked spiritually. It’s your spirit that joins together like two pieces of clay. I’m sure you have heard of “soul ties” and why it’s so hard to break away from someone. They are yoked by spirit through intimacy. Intimacy isn’t just within the parameter of sex. Intimacy is also experienced through conversation, investing quality time together, physical touch such as hugging, holding and kissing each other. It’s whatever you do to allow someone to earn you trust, affection, love and sacrifice.
To have a godly relationship, you must be in a committed relationship with God through Jesus Christ. You must be connected to the True Vine. An issue some believers in Christ have is they desire a godly relationship, but their lifestyle contradicts what they’re seeking, expecting and praying for. The desire maybe in you to want a godly man or woman, but your heart is still in covenant with the world. It’s possible to receive salvation and remain unchanged. This happens by not reading the Word and spending intimate time with God. When you are walking with the Holy Spirit that is in you, you’ll no longer have a taste or an attraction for what’s unholy. Men who have an intimate relationship with Christ, walk in the spirit. They no longer have a desire or an attraction for women who speak with profanity, adorns herself in sensuality, seduction and vanity. Neither does a godly woman, walking in the same magnitude of intimacy with God and holiness, have an affinity for men who easily overtake ungodly women by their fame, prestige, material possessions or the appeal of their physical attraction.