In the introduction, I touched on how love is often defined by how a person makes them feel. God is love and He is spirit., which means love is spiritual. Galatians 5:22 highlights the fruits of His Spirit. Love is the first one listed and it’s not there randomly. Out of love flows joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Without love, none of these qualities can be. You may ask yourself, how does this tie into the topic intimacy of covenant. What I’m giving you is a foundation to incorporate into your definition and outlook of love. I used to have a list of qualities that I wanted in a woman. The fruits of God’s spirit weren’t included. Being equally yoked is also having and embracing the same definition of what love is and looks like in Christ. A reason relationships fail are because of contrasting thoughts and opinions of what love is. It’s difficult arriving to a mutual agreement when perspectives clash. People have passionate, but destructive arguments due to how they intellectually, emotionally and spiritually understand something. Arguments are expressed through the reality of ones perspective, which is based on experience, or lack thereof, on emotional intelligence and how spiritually discerned they. And yes, I agree there’s beauty, intrigue and excitement in diversity and difference of opinion and how a person thinks. However, when it to comes to a Christ-like union, there must be a common ground and a path bigger but narrow enough for two people walk on. How can two walk together unless they agree. Amos 3:3. By bigger, I’m alluding to the ability to be unselfish and share your life with someone else. By narrow, when two marry, they become one flesh, walking side by side in agreement with each other. You must be equally yoked in Christ to walk the narrow path of holiness and godliness in a persuasive and secular world. Light and darkness can’t occupy the same space.
I want you to understand something that’s very poignant here. The deeper your intimacy is with God, more depth and substance is added to how you love. The gifts of wisdom and understanding will help you love in an impacting way. I speak of the kind of loving that transforms and opens another eyes to see Christ in you when its inconvenient to. Your spouse should see more of Christ in you than you. The scales fell from Paul eyes represents a new life, a new vision, a new purpose and a new love. Paul transitioned from a life of persecuting Christians to a life of becoming one. Believers in Christ couldn’t comprehend this drastic and sudden change. That’s to say, we cannot fully comprehend the love, the thoughts and the ways of God. We should be transformed from our former life and former way of loving to Holy Spirit way of loving. This doesn’t mean we’re going to be perfect. It means we are to surrender, commit and be active in treating others the way God shows grace and mercy towards us.
Many of you are praying for a sign of confirmation if you met the one. Look to see the fruits of God’s spirit are in the person you’re investing time with.