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Woman of God

Gazing into her eyes, I can see blue oceans and forceful waves overlapping over each.

In her is life, the breath of God, the same Spirit that hovered over the face of the deep in the beginning.

She walks and sits in the company virtue.

When she speaks, I listen.

When she touches,  I heal.

When she counsels, I have clarity.

Her wisdom and virtue is her honor.

I adore this woman.

 

She doesn’t give me life. She adds to my life.

When I speak, she listens.

When I touch, she heals.

When I counsel, she has clarity.

She honors my love and intimacy with Christ.

We are compatible in every way.

Our relationship glorifies God.

 

As my custom, I kiss her hand in public every now and then. She’s my royal queen.

She’s royalty to me.

I kneel and prayed for favor, and found a “good thing” in her

We laugh together. Pray together. Praise together. Worship together. We are on flesh.

We are not perfect, but we are made for each other.

Our hearts are in the hands of The Potter.

We’re both His clay–forever shaped, refined into one and sealed with a coating of God’s love, promise and blessing.

She is the finishing touch. I don’t have to look further.

I belong to her, but she truly belongs to God. He loved her first. My love can never replace or surpass what the way God loves her, so I clang to Him the more, keeping Him first.

I adore this woman.

 

 

 

 

 

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Intimacy of Covenant Pt. I

In the introduction, I touched on how love is often defined by how a person makes them feel. God is love and He is spirit., which means love is spiritual. Galatians 5:22 highlights the fruits of His Spirit. Love is the first one listed, and it’s not there randomly.  Out of love comes joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Without love, none of these qualities can be. You may ask yourself, how does this tie into the topic intimacy of covenant. What I’m giving you is a foundation to incorporate into your definition and outlook of love. I used to have a list of qualities that I wanted in a woman. The fruits of God’s spirit weren’t included.  Being equally yoked is also having and embracing the same definition of what love is and looks like in a godly relationship.  A reason relationships fail are because of contrasting thoughts and opinions of what love is.  It’s difficult arriving to a mutual agreement when perspectives clash.  And yes, I agree there’s beauty, intrigue and excitement in diversity and difference of opinion and how a person thinks. However, when it to comes to a  Christ-like union, there must be a common ground and a path bigger, but narrow enough for you to walk on with the love of your life. By bigger, I’m alluding to the ability to be unselfish and share your life with someone else.  By narrow, when two marry, they become one flesh, walking side by side in agreement with each other.  You must be equally yoked in Christ to walk the narrow path of holiness and godliness in a persuasive and secular world. Light and darkness can’t occupy the same space.

I want you to understand something that’s very poignant here. The deeper your intimacy is with God, more depth and substance is added to how you love. The gifts of wisdom and understanding will help you love in an impacting way. I speak of the kind of loving that transforms and opens another eye to see Christ in you when its inconvenient to. Your spouse should see more of Christ in you than you. The scales fell from Paul eyes represents a new life, a new vision, a new purpose and a new love. Paul transitioned from a life of persecuting Christians to a life of becoming one. Believers in Christ couldn’t comprehend this drastic and sudden change. That is to say, we cannot fully comprehend the love, the thoughts and the ways of God. We should be transformed from our former life and former way of loving to Holy Spirit way of loving. This doesn’t mean we’re going to be perfect. It means we are to surrender, commit and be active in treating others the way God shows grace and mercy towards us.

Many of you are praying for a sign of confirmation if you met the one. Look to see the fruits of God’s spirit are in the person you’re investing time with.

 

 

 

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Intimacy of Covenant, the Introduction

Love is often define within the limitation of emotion. It’s God who helps you understand the emotions you feel from love are just an over flow of a spiritual connection you have with someone. I’m sure you come to experience and understand that emotions are sometimes misleading. They’re inconsistent. Feelings are based on what someone does or don’t do for you. People aren’t perfect. Neither are you. Your significant other could do or say something that’s hurtful to you–intentionally or unintentially. In that instance of offense, the emotions you associate love with will ultimately vanish. What you called love would take on the form of unfulfillment, anger and indifference. And usually when someone feels a neglected, cheating may become an option or creating distance.  You must truly understand how God defines love in 1 Corinthians 13, if you’re going to have a successful courtship and mariage.. When you mediate on these scriptures, you’ll begin to see the heart of God and the heart of His son, Christ and the fruits of the Holy Spirit.  You’ll begin to see kindness, patience and gentleness through His grace and mercy towards you.  His love doesn’t dishonor. It’s neither self-seeking. You will also see those qualities on display in the life of Jesus Christ when you study the Gospels. If emotions are what define love for you, I encourage you to look beyond emotion.

The cliché “love is a choice” rings true, but what’s more profound is that God is love. The decision to surrender your love life to God will prove to be a wise one. A successful and godly relationship rests on Christ being at the center of it. In 1 Corinthians, love is defined. In 2 Corinthians 6:14,  the word of God tells who He wants us to experience love with, which is an equally yoked person. A person who is equally yoked with you is a man or woman who’s given their life to Christ, surrendered their life to Christ and is in an intimate with Him.  I will go in detail later of what this kind of Christian looks like according to scripture and not Melvin Davis (me) thoughts or opinions.  Being in a relationship or married to an individual in Christ is what makes two equally yoked.

Being equally yoked isn’t a metaphor. The yoke of something is the core of something. The core holds everything together, so that which you have built may live and have life more abundantly. It’s the foundation that everything else rests on. “Yoke”equates to spirit. When you are intimate with someone, you become yoked.  It’s your spirit that joins two together. I’m sure you have heard of “soul ties” and why it’s so hard to break away from someone. They are yoked by spirit through intimacy. Intimacy isn’t just within the parameter of sex. Intimacy is also experienced through conversation, investing quality time together, physical touch such as hugging, holding and kissing each other. It’s whatever you do that allows one to enter your personal space such as your heart and your mind to earn your trust, love, affection and sacrifice.

To have a godly relationship, you must be in a committed relationship with God through Jesus Christ.  An issue some believers in Christ have is they desire a godly relationship  but their lifestyle contradicts what they’re seeking, expecting and praying for. The desire maybe in you to want a godly man or woman, but your heart is still in covenant with the world. It’s possible to receive salvation and remain untransformed by simply not reading the Word and spending intimate time with God. When you are walking with the Holy Spirit that is in you, you’ll no longer have a taste or an attraction for what’s unholy. Men who have an intimate relationship with Christ, walk in the spirit. They no longer have a desire or an attraction for women who speak with profanity, adorns herself in sensuality, seduction and vanity. Neither does a godly woman, walking in the same magnitude of intimacy with God and holiness, have an affinity for men who easily overtake ungodly women by their fame, prestige, material possessions or the appeal of their physical attraction.

 

 

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Doing Love God’s Way Pt. II

I’m not the kind of man that would write a woman off if she’s of a different culture or race. Neither would I if she initially isn’t a believer in Christ. God has used both men and women to win their soon to be spouses over to him. Seeing this into fruition takes walking in the fruits of the Spirit that’s outlined in Galatians 5: 22. You would need the love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Truly anything is possible with God and when you are walking in these fruits of God’s Holy Spirit. They saying goes, “age doesn’t matter.” Yes that’s true, but my response to that statement is maturity does. A person could be younger numerically, but have the emotional and spiritual maturity that it takes to be consistent, understanding, an effective communicator and having an authentic identity of the self. Couples with significant age gaps, that would make others on the outside snarl at them, work because God joined together. What I want to draw your attention to is being equally yoked.

2 Corinthians 6:14 has become more of a reality to me. It’s one thing to know something intellectually. It’s a different experience when something becomes revelation to you. It’s fulfilling and refreshing when the word of God is experienced. After being single for a while, I’ve evolved in a way of taking my relationship with Christ more seriously. God began speaking to me loudly years ago about having a more intimate relationship with him. This is still a journey I’m trying to master. Since then, I changed my entire approach to how I engage and court women, which is doing love God’s way. In the past, I haven’ t always been successful. However, in recent encounters, I’ve stood my ground with sex before marriage. I can honestly say now, the desire to have sex before marriage is less desirable. I’m not moved by physical attraction and women who throw their selves at me in an attempt to seduce me. In fact, it’s a turnoff. Seduction and sensuality is a turnoff when you’re walking in the spirit. I’ve actually asked God to take away my desire for sex until marriage. It’s meaningless to be intimate before becoming one when you understand why God says wait. There’s no need to create soul tie or any other unnecessary consequences that comes with disobedience when your body craves sex. It’s not worth it.
Being with someone you’re equally yoked with is not an option if you have committed your life to Christ. It simply isn’t going to work. Being equally yoked encompasses many things you may overlook on the surface when you read “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” When this scripture is read, readers assume it’s only talking about individuals who have rejected Christ. This scripture also applies to those who have “given” their life to Christ, but don’t live a godly life. They are certain things Christians don’t BELIEVE in the Bible. One of them is sex before marriage.

That’s not the only issue the scripture addresses about being equally yoked. When you have an intimate relationship with God and you spend time studying the word, you become transformed. Your mind is renewed. You’re thinking changes and your understanding deepens. How you think aligns to who Christ is and what his word says. This gives insight to how a person thinks, how the world is perceived around them and they treat one another. It also lends to how consistent and an effective communicator someone is, and they’re emotional and spiritual maturity, which I pointed out earlier. If you try to be in a relationship with someone who thinking isn’t on a scripture level, because they’re still living according to the ways of the world, more than likely, that relationship isn’t going to work. Not being open to a truth based on scripture that you haven’t come to experience and having a close mind, would soon create friction, arguments and drama between you and someone.This person has to come into their own maturity, knowledge and understanding of the word and revelation of who Christ is, which is nothing wrong. There are somethings I didn’t get until months or years later. I had to go through my process of maturity.
I choose to do love God’s way. It doesn’t matter how physically appealing and successful someone is, if they aren’t committed to God, and you are, you’re not going to be able to do love God’s way. If you say, how does the couple work who aren’t living their life according to scripture. Well, two uncommitted people have something in common. They aren’t committed. Doing love God’s with someone who’s in agreement with what the word of God says saves you the stress.

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Doing Love God’s Way

My relationship with God is the most valuable thing in life. I’m here because of God’s love, grace and mercy. My relationship with God has led and continues to lead women away from me.  Disappointing at sometimes , yes, but am I hurt, no. No relationship out of the will of God is worth being in. Ever since 2014,  I commited my life to holiness, purity and righteousness. I committed to celibacy, stopped listening to music riddled with sensuality, sexuality/lust, songs that encourages arrogance,  self-centeredness , provokes loneliness, anger, fear, melancholy and that reminds you of what you once had. Soul tie music are stronghold music that prevents  you from moving on from the past. Some movies and people can have the same effect on you.

The narrow path of holiness, purity and righteousness was a decision I needed to make to answer and prepare for the call/purpose God invited me to. More importantly,  I accepted the invitation to the deep  intimacy and to walk with God. This path has been a fulfilling yet challenging one. Sometimes my humanity says to my spirit, is it worth. By faith, trust and love for God, my spirit says,  It is.

Much of my understanding about love, relationships and woman comes from the word of God and the wisdom He blesses me with. The more time you spend studying the scriptures and basking in God’s presence, the more wisdom, knowledge and revelation He will download into your spirit. Your discernment also increases. You’re just going to know and see certain things about people, environments and situations before they unfold. If not in the beginning, later on.

As you come to a place of maturity, you arrive to a point in life where you just want to enjoy the simple things with someone. Like consistency, simplicity, peace, and the first options are understanding, reconciliation and forgiveness. These are the gems to look forward to in a relationship. It’s a trend to be difficult, indifferent, dysfunctional and self-absorbing. And create problems or be evasive when you don’t have to. I can’t comprehend this. God brings the love into your life to love and not fight with. Then again, some people do only what they know. Things flow so much easier when there’s strong communication, trust and security in each other, which takes time to build. The ride is also smoother when you both come together with the same goal in mind, which is to become one. This also takes time.

 

 

 

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The Fruit of Her Spirit

A soothing balm against my skin, a spirit possessing the fragrance of frankincense, I know I’m in the company of a true worshipper

With the gentleness of a dove, filled with the holiness of God and the fear of the Lord that rests on you, I know you are my answered prayer

My honor for you is deep and rich in-depth. How could I speak to you with profanity or raise my voice in violent rage when I have a bride who’s in Christ?

How could I peer at another woman when I waited so long for you and moved through disappointment after disappointment after disappointment? If I were to fear anything, it would be losing you. You were presented to me by the love, favor, grace and mercy of our Father 

I found a good woman

 

It was no secret you knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you

You saw love in my smile. You heard it in my words. You felt it in my touch. You discerned it in my spirit. I was more than an open book to you. You saw the dirt I was created from, the kind of spirit God breathed in me and when I became a living thing

I didn’t have to question you. Your love for me was parallel. You were faithful and respectful. I still had your undivided attention when I wasn’t in your presence. 

You passed through the outer courts of my heart, entered the inner and took a seat into the deep

 God gave you the wisdom and the oxygen to walk on my moon.

 Wisdom gave you the right words to say and when to say it. The oxygen allowed you to breathe in a space where other women couldn’t. You knew I was peculiar. You knew you had to be patient? You knew you had to walk in the love of God. You knew I walked with God, so you gave me the time to spend with Him. I love you more for that

You deserve the best of my efforts in loving you.

You deserve a wedding ring not found on earth or  could be brought with money. You deserve something that cannot be put together with human hands.

What I desire to give you is in heaven. I have faith and the favor of God that He will bless me with a gem from one of His treasures

I bow to you on this day

I bow to longevity

I bow to grow old with you

I bow to be faithful to you

I bow for you and no one else

 

I vow to be by your side in the winter and spring.

I vow to love you until I’m no more

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Chosen to Love

Deep calls out to deep in the roar of your waterfalls; all your waves and breakers have swept over me. –Psalm 42:7

In this passage, King David is referring to intimacy with God. He’s not alluding to a religious/mundane like relationship with God.  Whereas, you set aside time with God, read your bible and pray because you feel obligated to. There’s nothing mechanical about love or intimacy. Love and Intimacy is natural. It’s also personal, revelatory and a deep spiritual experience. King David desired to go deep, because he was deep. He was deep because God made him that way. The installation of intimacy within king David was there before he was born. Deep intimacy was pursued given where King David was at in life. He recognized the need for intimacy with God and he knew there was a price to pay for it. We are also made to experience deep intimacy with God, but there’s a price for it. However, “many are called, but a few are chosen.” The chosen enters the secret place because they have a desire to.

The chosen are willing to pay the cost. Sleep, meals, social outing’s, changing your lifestyle and who you socialize with are some costs. Consecration is part of the equation of arriving to a deep place of intimacy with God. This means you have set yourself apart from the world. Separation from all unclean, unholy and impure things, lifestyles and people are necessary. The further you step into the presence of God, the holier you become, sin begins to lose its power and grip over you. And the scales begin to fall off your eyes. When the scales fall off your eyes, the clearer you’ll see who you are in Christ. Your self-worth is elevated then. In your previous days, you entertained anything that looked or sounded good. But now that you have matured in Christ, you’re not easily wooed or swept of your feet by beauty and ear pleasing words that connects with the experiences of your soul. You have arrived to a revelation that the love of your life has to be chosen by God for you.

Two truths about life: Substance is hard to find and beauty isn’t far away. You can find attractive people everywhere, but it’s rare to find substance in beauty. In person or on social media, vanity is all on an all-time high. Credit that to the popularity, power and platform of social media. Hundreds of pics stream through your timeline that serves the purpose of soliciting your attention. You start to wonder what else does the person have to offer besides another pic puckering lips, seductive eyes, revealing clothing and pretentious inspirational and “Godly messages and quotes” that essentially serves the purpose of finding an excuse to share another pic. Vanity isn’t of God and when you don’t love yourself or see who you are in Christ, you’ll continue to post pics for likes or attention, which means, you’re still seeking approval regardless if you are in a relationship, married or not.

As you take on the image and mind of Christ, the easier it is discern who’s a good fit for you. Speaking for myself, God is drawing me into a deep place of intimacy with Him. He’s revealing things to me in ways that would cause arguments and raise antennas of suspicion and skepticism about me. Equally yoked is what I’m getting at here–whether friend or more. There are only a handful of people who I can converse about the deeper things of God and an argument or a “why” question isn’t thrown out. There’s just a level of spiritual maturity and understanding that permits such conversation to flow. I now know my wife has to be chosen for me. The calling and ministry God has assigned me isn’t designed for any woman to understand or be a part of. Her mind must also be in Christ and so must her thirst and hunger after holiness and righteousness, thus, Jesus Christ. If a woman is in the world or is heavily influenced by it, we’re not going to be on the same page. If she has not desire to mature in Christ, we would constantly misunderstand each other.

God has chosen someone specifically for you. They are made for you. They are equipped with the love, patience, communication and prayer life to stand beside you and be a life partner. To single women, be patient for the man/husband God has for you. To single men, wait for the woman of God. God knows where you are in life. He knows what needs smoothing out in you before he releases her. He knows where you must be in Him before He releases her to you. To single woman, changing your ways and behavior maybe the cause of the delay. You must emulate the mind of Christ.

 

 

 

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