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She is My Proverbs 31

I kneel and kiss your hand because you are a virtuous woman

In your presence, the curtains of my life pull back for you to see all:

 You find faithfulness, respect, the ability and desire to love unconditionally

Because of what you saw, you took center on my heart with security

I sit and watch you do what you do with perfection

As you dance swiftly with grace, the power of your footprints compels me join you

Eye meets eye, you smile, I smile, chemistry sizzles and God, the conductor standing in between us, approves of this symphony that moves our souls

Hand against hand, the movement from my lips as I confessed, “you are my Proverbs 31”—tickle you but comfort sits in

 “May I have the honor?”

“Yes,” God replied.

I took out a ring and kneeled before my virtuous woman

“Will you?”

“Yes,” she answered before I could ask the question

Our eyes filled with tears of joy because God ordained this moment and gave us unspeakable peace to transition into a lifelong commitment

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Be truthful. Be forthright. Be honest.

 

I had a 2 hour a conversation with a married couple a few days ago. What I heard benefited me tremendously. Their testimony and experiences rejuvenated my hope and excitement in finding a faithful woman. Not just a faithful woman, but a God-fearing one. The wife said to me, “I rather be hurt by the truth than to be hurt by a lie. It’s more difficult to recover from a lie. People forgive, however lies are like tough stains that are hard to get out of the heart and memory. The husband and wife both confessed that they have had difficult times in their marriage, which is expected, but they never lied to each other. The husband said, “I always tell her the truth–even if it hurts her, but at least she knows I am being honest.” A woman respects when a man truthful. Vice versa. I want to point out a trend that’s not new, but more obvious in 2016. It makes finding love more challenging, as well as having meaningful friendships. It’s called “The Art of Passive Aggressiveness.” This isn’t new profound revelation, so I encourage you to dislodge you’re excitement. However, what I present to you is something I think you should be conscious of. Let’s get into it.

Matthew 5: 37 says, “But let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes,’ and your ‘no’, ‘no.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.”

Matthew 5: 37 talks about being truthful and dishonest. When you tell the truth in love, you’re mirroring the image of Christ. When you lie, you emulate the nature of our adversary. Finding honesty in people is hard to come by in 2016. Rather than telling the truth, individuals opt to be passive aggressive or lie altogether. I understand the fear of hurting someone’s feeling lingers at the forefront of your mind. You know the impact it could have on the other person who’s deeply interested in you. However, hiding what you truly feel or just completely ignoring the person you welcomed them into your life, doesn’t do the entire situation much justice. It doesn’t help the other person either. You’re building momentum to the hurt the person in a greater way by prolonging what needs to be said now than later. It’s essential to keep in mind the concept of sowing and reaping. I’m speaking from experience.

When it comes to where you are emotionally, mentally or spiritually, be truthful. Be forthright. Be honest. If you recently exited a relationship, and you’re on the brink of entering another one without communicating where you stand, failure is the likely outcome. I suggest being single for a while. Breathe. Heal. Reflect. Learn. Grow. Going into new situation broken will create more brokenness. God wants you sit still, so He can deal without the other hurts in your life before he addresses the recent hurt of your breakup. God works strategically and in order.

Maybe the above doesn’t apply to you. Perhaps investing time with someone you’re not really interested in for the reason that you’re lonely, need attention, just killing time and banking on another relationship to heal you is call deception. Deception is to posture yourself in a way to hold another attention. It’s like conversing or interacting in a way to gives a false sense of hope. It’s okay to say, “I’m not interested. Or, “I don’t foresee anything pass a friendship.” It’s only right for the other party to know the truth. Putting yourself in a position of power to pick and choose when you want to be bothered, talk, text, or blatantly ignore the person altogether is impolite, rude and insensitive. Put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself if you want to be recipient of this kind of behavior. God isn’t going to curse or strike you down for being honest about you how feel and where you stand.  Communicate the truth. Communicate the truth in love. The person maybe hurt when you tell them how you feel, but they will respect you. If they choose to leave of your life, at least you know they you aren’t keeping them around for any other reason. They will meet the person God has for them. So will you. It’s better to give the other party the option to make the best decision for their self and emotional well-being.

If you’re like me, God has you on hold. And while you’re in the waiting room, opportunities are going to come your way to date or entertain a love interest. I know this is frustrating. I’ve been single since 2008. That’s not to say that I haven’t dated since. I have, but God taught me a lesson about dating, which is, don’t date. You’re probably thinking, well, that doesn’t make sense. Doesn’t Proverbs 18:22 say, “He that finds a wife finds a good thing.”  This is absolutely true. True when God releases you to find or pursue. True when God says yes. True in the context of His timing. Here’s what God taught me about dating. Don’t date. When I pray about someone I’m interested in, the Holy Spirit reveals the Father’s will to me.  Jesus tells us in John 16:13, “But when he, the Holy Spirit comes, he will lead you and guide you into ALL truth.” I lie to you not. God answers my prayers in sometimes minutes, hours, a day or two. No longer than a month. Hearing “no” is disappointing. Really disappointing when YOU see potential, but think of the impact of the disappointment of going forth without seeking God’s will. When you’re in the waiting period, you can say, “This isn’t the season for me. God hasn’t permitted me get involved with anyone at this time.”  When a person completely objects to spiritual statement of truth, because it “doesn’t make sense,” or it  “sounds like BS,” you don’t have to pray. The person has either communicated they aren’t born of the Spirit of God through Christ or they lack spiritual maturity. You would be unequally yoked on both accounts if you choose to go forward. Embracing anything that’s not the will of God comes with unnecessary heartache, drama, confusion and pain. I’ve been there before too.

Get into the habit of being honest. Having courtesy for another feelings goes along way. It’s called communication.  Honest communication. I know it’s more convenient to hide what you’re truly feeling and thinking or to simply ignore someone. I’m guilty of this, but I changed when the Holy Spirit convicted me and I reaped what I sow. Folks may think you’re being “mean” for being honest, forthright and truthful. We live in “I don’t want to offend you” aka Passive Aggressiveness times. The scripture doesn’t teach us to be passive or lukewarm. The word of God teaches us to let your “yes, be yes. Your no, be no.”

There will come a time when the tables are turned. Where you are the one head over heels and the other person is the puppet master. Having your emotional and mental strings pulled by someone isn’t a good feeling. Be truthful. Be forthright. Be honest.

 

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Before I get into the message, I want to do something different this time. It’s my heart desire God speaks to you through the words He’s given me. I want you to be spirit fed and led rather than emotional fed and led. I want you to pray this prayer before you read further. I never want to give anyone false hope or have anyone believe there’s life in something God isn’t going to touch. Simply, because, it’s not His will. It’s my heart desire for you to experience everything in God’s will. There’s peace, joy, love, kindness, gentleness and more in God’s will. Relationships aren’t perfect because you aren’t. I say, posses what you’re requiring in someone else. I mean mentally, emotionally and spiritually. By keeping God first, all things are possible through Jesus Christ. All things.

Jesus, guide me by your spirit as I read this blog

Speak to my heart in ways that you never have before

Give me clarity and understanding about your will for my life

May confirmation and peace be with me when I’m done reading

Bless me with the wisdom to see your will during this time of my life

It’s you Jesus that I desire more than anything

It’s through You that all things are revealed

Open the eyes of my heart to see what you’re showing me in this blog

Show me your will about the person I have my eyes on

Remove from this relationship if it’s not what you desire for me

It’s in Jesus name that I pray, amen!

 

Determining if you met the love of your life is difficult when emotion is the only point of reference you have to confirm God’s will. I’m in no way suggesting feeling a deep interest, love or longing for someone is negative. Emotions are gift from God. It’s how we experience the humanity of a person. That’s the good and the bad. Feeling is an aspect of love. It’s passionate and breathtaking. However, as I pointed out moments ago, you need something more than feeling to confirm if you are or aren’t with the right person. Having an emotional high for someone without God ‘s confirmation can be devastating.

An emotional high prescribes the euphoria like your favorite romantic movie. The feeling of meeting someone with promising potential feels sublime. Everything feels right. I’m sure you’re well acquainted with early “good morning” texts from your love interest, along with some Christ-like words of encouragement. A.m., texts often leads to, in between afternoon texts and maybe, in between short phone conversations. Preferably around lunch time or a “bathroom break” or out getting “a whiff of fresh air.” Whatever is your vice is to get out of the office, house or chair, I understand. Those afternoon texts and short conversations will more than likely drift into evening and midnight conversation.  Midnight for some reason creates an atmosphere of transparency. Perhaps your guard is let down when the pressures and responsibilities of life are asleep in the wee hours of the morning. Candid conversation opens you up to exchange some of the most personal and intimate parts of your life. You talk about painful times of tribulation, lost and moments you felt like there was no other than God who pulled you through defying times. You also share memorable high points of your life. Like how God blessed you with the new career, how you started a business, or found a new church home. As the night turns into early morning, you end the call with a mutual feeling of excitement, renewed faith and hope. This newfound picture of life includes you two in it. You see each other spending life together in the most perfect, peaceful and Godly way. Optimism takes precedence as you sleep the 4 or 5 hours you have left to start the day.

Whether you’re aware of it or not, exchanging the matters and experiences of your heart is a way to build a soul-tie. There’s intimacy involved when you connect with someone in a spiritual and emotional way.  A bridge of closeness is coming together that creates just enough security and trust that you feel safe. You start to think, just maybe, I found someone special.  You’re ready to blow the trumpet and make the announcement to family and friends that you found the person you’ve been praying and waiting for. Oh, I forgot, that announcement is also extended to Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, IG too, but that’s hold until you know it’s official. I’ve learned the hard lesson of premature announcements. You cringe behind door, asking yourself, what I tell those closest to me I found the love of my life. You feel embarrassed, stupid and ashamed. You ultimately feel like the “Donkey of the Day.” If you “named” it and “claimed” it, fine. It’s not too late to seek God’s will. You have the chance to stop the boat from sailing out too far in the sea. This is a time to pray. If you have been talking to someone for several months, with the intent to court, I suggest praying if you’re feeling unsure. If you’re engaged to someone, and you feel skeptical about this person, it’s not too late to seek God’s confirmation. Pray. If you married someone, without the peace and confirmation in your heart, pray. God loves you so much to see you live life outside of His will. There isn’t a need to feel ashamed. Most of the content in my blogs derive from personal experiences, but as Paul says so unashamedly to the church of Corinth, in 1 Corinthians 13:11, reflecting on life before his encounter first encounter with Christ, “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, and reason like a child. But when I became a man, I put away childish things.” Part of those childish things I put away was not moving forward with someone without God’s confirmation. I don’t care how good she looks, what accolades she has, people she knows, what she possesses materialistically or the kind of relationship she has with God, I’m seeking God’s confirmation before I become emotionally and spiritually invested. Time is a gift that cannot be squandered. I want to touch on a few key points of how God confirms His will to you It happens naturally and spiritually.  In part III, I will share the wisdom and knowledge God has blessed me with. I pray that you find them useful and applicable to your life.

 

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God’s Confirmation vs An Emotional High Pt. II

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The Introduction of The Healing Process

The heart of a problem lies in the heart.–Melvin Davis

Whether you’re the recipient of having your heart broken, or the one who delivered a crushing blow to someone else, reflection and healing is a should happen before enter another relationship. It’s extremely important and necessary as you move forward, because 1) You want to be free from any hurt. Emotional availability is the possibility of beginning a new relationship. If your heart and mind is focused on the past, you will present inconsistency in giving undivided time and devotion to the next person you find interest in  2.  You want to be whole. A relationship focused on healing someone is not a relationship. It’s called counseling, providing therapy. It’s vital to be aware and in control of whatever that’s effecting you. When you aren’t conscious about how what’s hurting you or how your past impacts your present, you’ll continue to stumble into relationships, expecting that person to heal you instead of loving you. In other words, the focus and the core of the relationship will be geared toward building you up verses loving you. And after you have healed, you will move on. You subconsciously received what you needed, and that person no longer serves a purpose in your life. Hardly anyone is blemish free of personal issues. We all have something we’re battling or dealing with it, privately or publicly. When you are aware about your issues beneath the surface, you could still develop something meaningful with someone.

Some of the strongest relationships derive from the strongest friendships. Meaningful friendships often happen through the exchanging of personal experiences, and being a presence of strength and support. What this means is that the love of your life could be the very person who helps you heal or vice versa, and you two could move forward experiencing a romantic love. 

Maybe what you’re dealing with has nothing to do with a relationship. Perhaps you’re praying for healing in your body, or battling anger or resentment toward or from family members. Maybe the conditions you’re combating is spiritual. Whereas, you want to live a life devoted to Christ, and according to God’s will, but there’s something snatching you back into that lifestyle  or place of pain, when you try change or move on. Whatever you’re confronted with, you can change and you can move on a healed and better person. All things are possible through Jesus Christ.  I hope and pray you read this message with an open heart. In fact, I pray you say this prayer.

 

God I am undeserving of your grace and healing, but I know, because you died on the cross for my sins, sin has no power over me.

I come to you with an open heart. I want to be honest with you. I am hurt. I am broken, I don’t know how to love or to receive it. I’m tired of feeling down and depressed. I have no peace. No joy, No laughter. No tears. I’ve cried enough. I’ve talked about it enough. I need you.

God, come into my life and heal my heart, because I can’t do it on my own. I need your help. I believe in my heart that you can heal some of my deepest wounds and rejections. Forgive me for my wrongdoing and sins, acts that I’ve committed knowingly and unknowingly. Forgive the person who hurt me. I can no longer hold them accountable because you’re speaking to my heart in this moment of what I need to do.

Heal me.

Release me.

In Jesus Christ name I pray. Amen.

I am healed. I am whole. 

 

To those who haven’t given their life to Christ, but you’re on the fence to, because you know there’s something other than you that’s been speaking to you, I open the door to salvation. I invite you to accept Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior. Pray this prayer.

God, I can no longer live life doing things my way. I can no longer live in sin or pretend like you don’t exist.

Father, on this day, I give my life to you, by acknowledging that your son Jesus Christ died on the cross my sins, and in three days, was raised from the dead by the same spirit that breathed life into me.

I accept Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and Savior. In Jesus name I pray, Amen. 

To you who prayed this prayer, wherever you are, the same spirit that’s in Christ, that raised him from the dead, is now in you. Pray that The Holy Spirit lead you to a church to complete the process of salvation. As Christ was baptized, as told in Matthew 3: 13-17, you also must also get baptized. I am praying for guidance and direction for you. 

 

Stay tuned for part I of The Healing Process. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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This is Not the End

Heartbreak is an unearthing disconnect from someone. The severing of two souls no longer joined together by the spirit, to grace each other eyes with the same passion, trust and conviction of love that once existed. However, with every ounce of effort and energy, utilizing every emotional and rational means of persuasion, it’s possible to relieve the past again. But ponder this possibility before you save what’s not in God’s will. 1. It will never be the same. 2. You’re too drained to enjoy what you fought to save, but, This is Not the End.

if you’re faithful during the process of heartbreak, the same spirit that you led you into that relationship, to pull out of you, the authentic you, is the same spirit that will heal and give you a second chance at love. It may not be with the same person you’re praying to be with, but you will be a different person to someone else.

I understand the great challenge of letting go, but If you hold to what’s dead, the joy inside your spirit will drift away–causing you to fall into a deep place of depression. You’ll also prolonge the healing the process and delay who you could meet. If you have the faith to let you, you will see the sun [Son] ascend from your dark clouds, and raised your temple again. The temple you, your heart and crushed spirit.

I want you to know this failed relationship is not the end for you. Believe me when I say this: With God, all things are truly possible. The love of your life is on the way. Let go. Embrace what is and move forward. This is not the end.

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You Will Find What You Lost

Yesterday I stopped by a store to return an auto part that I didn’t need for my car. As I stood in line, waiting patiently to make the return, I noticed how kind and friendly the cashier was. I knew she had a heart of joy, but I also noticed something else about her.

During the transaction we began talking. I don’t quite remember how we ended up talking about how she found $ 280 on a windy day in the parking lot. She said what was interesting about the money on the ground is that it didn’t fly away. It flapped, but the corner of the money was stuck to the ground. She went inside and let her employee’s know she found money, and that she was going to let the store manager know. They thought she was crazy for doing that. Anyone who finds money on the ground would probably look around to see if anyone dropped it, but after, they’re pocketing that money. I know you have. I have before…just being honest. The cashier said she didn’t feel right. “It’s not mine. It doesn’t belong to me,” she reiterated to me.

“God, I pray you send that person back to me who lost this money,” she said she prayed. She goes on to say she felt sorry for the person who the money “They probably need it.” Later on, someone called to the store and explained that they lost money. The person was crying on the other end of the phone, because he was unemployed, and that he needed it for his family. She calmed the guy down, and told him she has his money. “It will be here,” she reassured him.  “Don’t worry. I have it for you.”

As soon as he walked through the store, she instantly knew it was him. She gave him the money and he offered her $20 but she refused to take it. “It’s your money,” she told the guy. “You don’t owe me anything.” The guy was a little upset that she didn’t take what he offered her, but here’s what happened to the casher a few days later. 

She found $20 outside on the ground. The money was stuck to the pavement the same way she found the $280. There was no one insight. She picked it up, knowing in her heart, it was God blessing her with $20. This was the same amount she refused to take from the guy. A few days later, she saw $20 on the floor. There was a gentleman in sight. She thought it belonged to him, and asked if it was. He replied no. She knew then, it was God blessing her with another $20. As you can see, she received double for returning something that belong to her. What do you have that doesn’t’ belong to you? Maybe you’re in a relationship with someone you know is not the one for you. Maybe you’re entertaining someone with the same feeling. Let them go. I thanked her for sharing this story. I told her” you just inspired my devotional message today. Here’s my message.

There are something’s you felt you lost in life. May it was a relationship. Perhaps you weren’t quite mature at the time to handle one. Maybe you were faithful and devoted to someone, but they were unfaithful to you. I thought this person was the one. Maybe you loved someone who passed away. You felt you were cheated, and grew angry at God. That’s understandable. Maybe it was a career opportunity that slipped away from you from some odd reason. Maybe it was a friendship, a house or a car. Whatever it was that you lost, I want you to know, you will find it again. From the perspective of the gentleman who dropped $280 on the ground, he found what he lost. I’m sure he was praying as he grew worry and stressed about the money he had, but God touched the cashier heart to hold what belong to him. What God has for you isn’t going anywhere. And from the perspective of the cashier, her honesty, good heart and obedience, earned her double. I have no idea what kind of situation that you’re in, but maybe you aren’t being honest with someone about how you feel or where you see the relationship going. Trade places for a moment. What if someone left you out in the dark about how they felt and saw you? Would you want to continue on another day, week, month or year, out- of- the- know? Be honest with the person. Let them know the truth about how you feel and how you see them. You aren’t being “mean” or “hurting” them. You’re freeing them. You could truly find the love of your life, and so could they, by being honest. Do yourself and that person a favor, and let go. 

Remember, you will find what you lost. God is preserving it for you. Trust Him.

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She’s on the Way

About four weeks ago, someone stopped and asked me at my job, if I was single. My answer, “yes.” She asked why. My answer, “I haven’t found a good woman.”

Her response. “Everyone has the potential to be good, but what’s in the heart of a person tells you who they are.”

She went on to say that no relationship is perfect, so you can’t look for the perfect relationship. “Yes that’s true, but compatibility matters.”

She opened up to me about her husband. She confessed, for the first few years of their marriage, she wasn’t in love with him, but then she grew to love him. She went on to say, that when she got sick, it was his face that she saw in the hospital, by her side. Not that I didn’t know this already, but when you love someone, you’re there for that person. Concluding her testimony about the love she and her husband have for each other, she looked me directly in my eye and said, “The Holy Spirit is going to lead you to your wife.”

Her statement of faith and sureness hit me hard. Considering that, looking or finding “the one” wasn’t on my mind at the time. I’m sure you would think that’s the case because of my blog posts and quotes, but it’s not. I’m so focused my writing career and planting my roots, having a relationship is a little far-fetched, however, there are moments when the thought crosses my mind of being in a relationship. Anyhow, her statement of faith and sureness definitely sent a message that she’s on the way.

I walked away from that conversation at peace, and with a solemn excitement that she really is coming soon. I gave me something to look forward to, in addition to my writing career and the ministry God is preparing for me. I have no idea who or where she is but I know she’s on the way.

As I continue to go through the spiritual and personal transformations I’m currently undergoing, I know that I am being prepared for a wife. God is putting the finish touches on the leader He’s developing in me. He’s also strengthening my prayer life and faith, so I can be a presence of strength and direction in her life, through Jesus Christ. He’s giving me wisdom of how to court and treat a woman, according to His standards and ways. He’s disciplining a certain appetite within me, so my eyes will always be fixed on her without lust, but of a pure love and devotion. She will be the woman I adore and reaffirm her value in my life, in private, and publicly. 

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