Love is often define within the limitations of emotion. It’s God who helps you understand that the emotions you feel from love are just an over flow of a spiritual connection you have with each other. I’m sure you come to experience and understand that emotions are sometimes misleading. They aren’t consistent, because people aren’t perfect. Your significant could do or say something that’s hurtful to you, or, they could be unfaithful to you. In that instance, the emotions that you associate love with, will ultimately vanish. What you called love would take the form of hate. Anger and betrayal can push to that point of no return. And if cheating isn’t the cause, or an intense argument. Neglection is another element that could propel one to feel unloved. You must truly understand how God defines love in 1 Corinthians 13. When you mediate on these scriptures, you’ll begin to see that God is love, that He is kind and patient. His love neither bring dishonor or is it self-seeking. You will also see those qualities on display in the life of Jesus Christ. If emotions are what define love for you, I encourage you to look deeper and further than the surface.
The cliche “love is a choice” rings true, but what’s more profound is that God is love. The decision to surrender your love life to God will prove to be a wise one. A successful and godly relationship rests on Christ being at the center of it. In 1 Corinthians, love is defined. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, the word of God tells who He wants us to experience love with and the nature of the relationship you should have with one another. 2 Corinthians 6:14. A man or woman who’s has given their life to Christ, surrendered their life to Christ and is in an intimate with him is who God wants you to spend the rest of your life with. I will go in detail later what this kind of Christian looks like according to scripture and not Melvin Davis (me). Being in a relationship or married to an individual in Christ is what makes two equally yoked.
Being equally yoked isn’t a metaphor. The yoke of something is the core of something. The core holds everything together, so that which you have built may live and have life more abundantly. It’s the foundation that everything else rests on. “Yoke”equated to spirit. When you are intimate with someone, you become yoked. It’s your spirit that holds and joins two together. They are yoked by spirit through intimacy. Intimacy isn’t just within the parameters of sex. Intimacy is also experienced through conversation, investing quality time together, physical touch such as hugging, holding and kissing each other. It’s whatever you do that allows one to enter your personal space such as your heart and your mind to earn your trust, love, affection and sacrifice.
In order to have a godly relationship, you must be in a committed relationship with God through Jesus Christ. An issue some believers in Christ have is they desire a godly relationship or to court or be courted in a Christ-like way, but their lifestyle contradicts what they’re seeking, expecting and praying for. The desire maybe in you to want a lifestyle and a relationship that comes from God, however, because a part of your heart is covenant with the world, you find yourself being drawn to a lifestyle and relationships that’s out of the will of God. When you are following the walk of the Holy Spirit that is in you, you’ll no longer have a taste or an attraction for what’s unholy. Godly men who are walking in a holy and intimate relationship with God, don’t have a desire or an attraction for women who speak with profanity, adorns herself in sensuality, seduction and vanity. Neither does a godly woman, walking in the same magnitude of holiness, have an affinity for men who easily overtake ungodly women by their fame, high status in life, material possessions or the appeal of their physical attraction. Feelings that stem from love is not the icing on the cake. Mistaking the icing for the foundation positions you to overlook how everything came together to make the cake stand with substance. You have to know the depth of someone to appreciate their surface. By surface, I’m speaking of feelings. You must have depth, i.e, an intimate relationship with God, to build a godly intimate covenant with someone. Love’s foundation and beginning is spiritual. God draws you together, confirms his will in your spirit and gives you peace about each other that surpasses your own understanding. Examples of that confoundity sound like, “where have you been all of my life,” or “I never knew you existed” or “ you are the definition of what haven’t experienced and what couldn’t articulate with words before I met you.” Feeling don’t complete the love and the relationship you have for each other. Emotions you feel from love are just an over flow of a spiritual connection you have with each other.