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The Art of Faithfulness and Gratitude Towards a Woman

There’s something about waiting that builds the anticipation of what’s to come. If you find a great woman, never let her go. –Melvin Davis

 

At 33, I move at a slower pace when it comes to getting to know a woman. I move like the tortious because my mind-set on the long run with her. With patience, you see many things you rather see now later. I take my time to pick apart her brain, to page through her spirit, and to take in the beauty of her personality like my favorite dish, to see if this the woman I would enjoy spending the rest of my life with. Patience is the best place you could be in. As mature in my spirit, I look to see what’s in a woman’s spirit. There’s beauty and art there. There are a many experiences that lends to how she think. And in her soul is the wonders her mystery.

It’s amazing to see the gems of a woman through her eyes, the feel the power of her presence when you’re in he presence.  Experiencing a connection like this is hard to find, but worth wait. When I look around and see couples well into their elder years, appearing to enjoy each other like that they first met, inside in my mind, I say, that’s what I want. Thank you God. I give thanks in advance because I know I’m going to experience what they have.

The wait makes me want to be faithful before I find my wife. When browse back at the experiences I’ve had, like failures and past mistakes, I’m thankful that I made them. I’m a different man now. I’m enjoying who I am becoming. I’ve taken my failures and manufactured them to fit the wisdom and knowledge God has endowed me with. I’m glad that I failed in the past. I have the opportunity to proceed forth in courting a woman the right way.

Gratitude is another thought that comes to mind as I anticipate the future. I’ve said this several times, and every now and then, if a conversation warrants it: A woman is one of God’s greatest gifts to man. Yes, her emotions and mood fluctuates. You may see snow in her summer or fall in her spirit. However, I don’t care how interchanging or indecisive she could be, I’d still love her despite unforeseen hail and blizzards. A woman balances a man. She is the equilibrium of his masculinity. A man needs a strong woman who has a soft, feminine touch to make him feel like a man, and vice versa.

The ability and desire to be faithful to a woman should happen before you meet her. I know its ideal to say, “When I find that woman, I’m going to be faithful to her.” Why not be faithful now? I’m sure you’re asking, How’s that possible? How can I be faithful now and I haven’t met her. Here’s how.

In your singleness, God is building particular foundations and characteristic traits in your life to succeed in your purpose. That’s the higher calling on your life. These foundations and characteristics traits are also applicable to the sacred marriage that’s waiting for you. While your being single, God is sending tests your way to see if you’ll remain faithful to Him when you much or when you have nothing. He’ll test you by pushing out into a platform where thousands of women are throwing themselves at you. He’s checking the pulse of your discipline to see how you’re gong to respond to the attention. The attention will still be there when that special woman comes. How are you going to react? Would give into what you can have without effort? Or would be faithful to the queen He’s given you?

In your singleness, God is destroying the old man to create a new man within you. This man is going to value and appreciate the woman He has for you. He’s making you wait so you can cherish and love her. If you look back, you’ll see He allowed you to get cheated, to be misled or go through some stress experience, so you’ll have the ability and develop the desire to be faithful, and so your heart can be filled with gratitude toward her.

Single men, I want you to get excited. Let your hearts fill with joy. I am. Your wife is drawing near as you seek. She’s going to be an attractive, spirit-filled woman.  You’re going to have the desire to wake up every morning with the intention to put a smile on her face every day. You’re going to anticipate spending every second and minute, hour and day, week and years with her. And although you may have some disagreements with her, you’re going to want to talk things out. After all, she the one of a kind that’s hard to find, and plus, she’s your best friend. Best friends are also hard to find.

Your greater is on the way.

 

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I’m Not Looking for the Perfect Woman

I’m sure the majority of women who have been reading my posts feel that I have high expectations beyond this world. They may think I’m looking to be with a supermodel woman or she has to look like the woman that’s eye candy to many men. Or, I’m specifically set on being with someone of the same culture. That’s not the case. Beauty and love extends beyond the color of my skin. And a high level of physical attraction doesn’t promise love. It promises lust. Other women may feel they have to be where I’m at spiritually. That’s not the case either. While physical attraction and chemistry, good conversation and having a spiritual connection matters, I’m a down to earth simple guy who sees himself with a down to earth, fun and simple woman. My expectations are realistic but not watered down or negotiated for just being with anyone.

I’m not looking for the perfect woman because the perfect woman believes she’s perfect is too good for anyone else. She also feels that no one measures up to her.  She seeks every opportunity to highlight your weaknesses rather than praise you strengths. Arrogance and conceitedness blindfolds her. I don’t know any man who would desire a woman like that. If so, it’s for the same of looking good in public or for sexual purposes, if you know what I mean.

I’m attracted to women who are humbled, who seek to experience love on a spiritual level, and knows how to communicate. Communication for some means yapping uncontrollably. Sorry. My attention span isn’t built that way. In a lecture, yes, it’s expected. My mind wanders when the uncontrollable yapping happens, and I immediately lose interest. Communication means to be conscious of another in your presence. You are engaging them. Not yourself.

I’m not looking for the perfect woman because I’m not a perfect man. I noted in a previous blog that although I may seem wise and knowledgeable, driven and well rounded, spiritually in tuned to people and my environment, and well put together, I’m flawed. I’m a human being who tries to live everyday improving.  I’m glad I’m not the perfect man. That’s too much pressure.

I’m not looking for the perfect woman because I’m looking for a woman I can grow, build and evolve with.  Relationships are built upon the building and rebidding of each other. I’m well aware that many people come from different family structures and relational experiences. And some of those who family structures and relational experiences may have created insecurities or have made their heart callous. I enter situations to learn about that person so I can understand who she is today, and how far she comes into being a woman. It’s important to understand who a woman is so I can be aware and sensitive to the woman she is today, as well as her to her needs. Empathy, listening and understanding is important her.

I’m not necessarily looking for a woman who’s where I’m at spiritually. Once upon a time, I was not who I am today. However, what’s important to me, and what I listen and look for in a woman is her desire to grow in God through Christ. I maybe the reason she may grow spiritually. She could be the reason why God taught me to love with compassion, with patience, kindness, etc., and to her strengths to compliment my weakness. Relationships are supposed to bring balance.

If you’re looking for the perfect person, I suggest you take a deeper look into the mirror. A perfect reflection isn’t staring back at you. It’s an illusion. That perfect doesn’t exist because you don’t exist in the reality of your humaneness. If you were created perfect, you wouldn’t have to depend on or acknowledge your Creator. No one one would be able to compliment you or please you.

I dig humble woman. They are attractive.

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How to Connect with a Woman Spiritually

A woman is more than her body. She is spirit. She is soul. She wants to experience love from you there. Get to know her there.–Melvin Davis

Being spiritual often has a negative, boring connotation to it. Most people think those who are spiritual live mundane, disinteresting and predicable lives.  There’s no fervor or excitement. It’s also believed that those who are spiritual sit in an empty room praying or offering up chants all day. Well, some may actually do, but there are persons who are down earth and human too. I could see this perspective, if you aren’t spiritual, however, there are some benefits of being spiritual. In the context with a woman, you’ll understand why.

I’d like to have your undivided attention for a few moments. I want to brush over the canvas of your thoughts with the brush of wisdom and insight. My paint is the experiences and what I’ve acquired from above. Here are three ways to connect with a woman spiritually. This is nothing deep, nothing you never heard before but maybe not said this way.

  1.  Connecting with a woman spiritually lends to good listening skills. When you’re able to articulate to her what she’s saying underneath and through her emotions, or what she can’t say with words, she knows that you are listening.

Listening draws her closer to you because you taking into consideration of what’s important to her on her mind. And because you’re listening, her heart is more prone to open up to you, to share more with you.

  1. Understanding. Understand her history to coexist with her in the present.

Understanding is just as powerful as misunderstanding someone. Many, I mean many relationships and friendships have fell apart due to poor communications and misunderstanding. It happens everyday.

With it comes to understanding a woman, listen without judgment her or the intent to use her past to have emotional or mental leverage over her. Understanding takes listening with a heart of love and empathy.

  1. Becoming a part of her secret place. The secret place is her place of peace, intimacy and serenity. It’s where she sets aside time to get refocus and center herself. It’s where she communions with God.

Becoming a part of her secret may also take time and patience. Not everyone gets to go there. She has to absolutely trust and FEEL secure with you before she invites you there. There, in her secret place, is when you get the opportunity to see her true spiritual side. There, you may also see her cry, because she may be reflecting on the wonders of God, how far she’s come from her pas, and how you showed up in her life—possibily to good to be true.. This is your opportunity to join her in prayer, to read with her or to simply sit in silence. Silence in the secret place is just as powerful as spoken words.

Furthermore, her interpretation of your presence in her secret place must be one of strength, certainty and spiritual and emotional support. Your ticket to that secret place lies in your relationship with God, or willingness to have one.

  1. Demonstration of Unconditional love.

If I were to coin this chapter in my life, it’s called, Learning How to Love, Unconditionally.

It’s easy to love when it’s convenient for you. That’s call loving with conditions. When you reach a point of learning how to love others around you, who can be tough to love, you matured. You stepped out love despite of how you feel. And when you learn how to love unconditionally, you can take that same ability to love unconditionally, in a relationship.

A spiritual woman interprets a man’s ability to love unconditionally by what’s in his spirit. She’s asking. Is he…

  1. Patient
  2. Kind
  3. Forgiving
  4. Faithful
  5. Good
  6. Gentle
  7. Full of joy
  8. Fill with love
  9. Has a heart of peace.

If you could love her unconditionally, you could love her beyond her flaws and often times, mixed emotions. Your conditional love toward her is your consistency.

These are three ways of how could connect with a woman spiritually.

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Broken Promises

A broken promise is God’s opportunity to give you what He promised.—Melvin Davis
We know the beginning of a new relationship is filled with excitement and pure intentions. The fuzzy feeling is record-breaking, considering what you experienced before. The emotional, intellectual, and spiritual connection you longed for has now arrived. And to top that off, you’re both on the same page of what you want out of life. Everything’s a go. You hop in the car of commitment, hit cruise control, and silently pray that the two of you will continue see the same road, driving at the same speed.

As a year and half approaches, you really start to think seriously about each other. By this time, you met the family and friends. And yep, they gave you the thumbs up for approval. However, a few out of the bunch just feel indifferent about your new relationship. But hey, at least you were independent enough to prevent outside perspectives and projections to influence the decision you made, or break the bond you have with that person. I truly commend you. And also, by this time, you’ve probably been on a few vacations together, and spent two of the most meaningful and anticipating holidays of the year together. Thanksgiving and Christmas. Family time with the love of you life is two of the most memorable and enjoyable memories. I could recall the joy that I had with ex’s family. It was good to see everyone together, eating and laughing. And I enjoyed my time with her. Family is truly important to me. Anyhow, as the holidays come to a closure, you saw each other lives merged into one. You’re thought, I could really see myself spending the rest of my life with this person. Those fuzzy feelings are still there, at least for one person. But, somehow, someone pumped the breaks, and totally disrupted the flow of the cruise. Heck, they even took their hand off of the steering wheel, and abandoned the car. You had no idea what changed and what happened. You thought all along things were great. No problems. Or, you know exactly what happened. At this point now, the commitment you had was shattered. You’re embarrassed and hurt because you told your family and friend’s about the promise. The promise was that you would spend the rest of your life together. I want to talk you about the broken promise of commitment.

A broken promise in a relationship is the deep emotional and spiritual blow that comes after the breakup. Simply because: you’re in a stage of reflection, thinking about that happened. You’re overwhelmed. You can’t figure things out, although the truth unveiled itself to your heart. Sometimes it takes a while for someone to accept the truth. Anyhow, more devastatingly: you really start to think about all the time you invested with that person, and with their family and friends. Money is something you could get back, but not them. If you been here before, you know exactly what I’m talking about. If you’re currently experiencing a broken promise, I’m not going to let you walk away without restoring your hope, and starting you on the road to recovery. It’s faith and healing time. Take a cruise with me.

That person may have promised the life you imagined to experience together as a couple or a life the you saw growing up before your innocent eyes. You saw your parents enjoy and relish those good moments that had with each other. But somehow, that promise was broken. Maybe unfaithfulness was the cause. Maybe the person just gave up on you, because it was easy to not fight for the love you believed in. Maybe, somewhere down the road, their emotional, physical and spiritual needs weren’t met, and they never said a word to you about it. The feeling of not having the opportunity to correct the problem leaves a feeling of being cheated. Maybe they voiced their concerns, but you failed, because either didn’t know how to make the necessary adjustments or you grew tired of watering a plant in a pot that was cracked. Whichever the cause, I have good news for you.

The person you were with may have hit you with a mighty blow.  You have all the reasons to be angry, to become better and to give up on love.  I want to encourage you today to not become the pain. Take the lesson out of the pain, and allow it become your wisdom, your eyes and ears of discernment. So, when you meet the next person, you’ll know how to communicate, address issues, and back out when you know you and your potential love interest, aren’t on the same page. A broken promise is God’s opportunity to give you what He promised. Faith is the key.

Sometimes you experienced heartbreak and disappointments, for the very reason of knowing the person you was with, isn’t the one for you. You have to have a starting point to know what or who doesn’t work for you, but now you know.

As tough as it may seem, refuse to become bitter. I repeat. Don’t become bitter, and to add, hopeless. There’s someone out there who will meet you where you are and accept you for who you are.

You are special. You are great. You are a confident loving person.

To my fellow gentlemen, you are a King. You were created to conquer. Not in a demeaning way. I’m talking about your purpose, your dreams, and to take your place in your marriage as a leader and protector. You were created to love with courage and boldness, to be a presence of might and strength.

And to women, you are a virtuous woman. You were created to nurture, care and to also love. You are a queen fit to stand next to your king. You strength is your compliment to what your King lacks. You aid in the success of the sacred union you have, and in other areas of your life.

You are beautiful. You are a woman. You are strength.

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Loving Each Other God’s Way

Loving God’s way brings out the best in each other.–Melvin Davis

The 9 fruits of God’s Holy Spirit are spiritual essentials you need function in God’s will with authority, confidence and excellence, as well as handle it’s responsibilities with integrity, a great level of patience and professionalism, when challenges arise. But the use of the 9 fruits God’s Holy Spirit isn’t just limited to walking in His will. Those spiritual intangibles are also applicable to a relationship. In order to become what God wants you to be each other, you must shower the love of your life with the 9 fruits of His holy spirit.

1. The number one fruit of God’s Holy Spirit is Love, because He is love.

Love is the reason we exist. Human beings are an expression of God’s Love. When God created us, he’s given us the capacity to love. Love is the greatest gift to experience in this world. Love is embedded in our DNA: It’s in our mind and emotions, in our bodies and spirit, which is why we can experience love on all four levels.

To express your love to the one God has blessed you with is an everyday opportunity to love that person God’s way. God’s love is full of compassion and passion, faithfulness and unselfishness, self-denying and sacrificing, sympathy and empathy, security, absolute assurance and confidence.

Love isn’t competition. Couples who feel the need to compete with each other, or to be dominate over one another, its because they’re simply insecure. Insecurity is linked to the lack of love you have for yourself, and the fear of the giving of yourself. It all boils down to control. Love isn’t controlling. Love is the absence of control and the freedom to be.

If God were insecure with us, he wouldn’t have given us the gift of freewill. He would create us in a way that robots are designed to function according to they way it was programmed. That’s not love. That’s what you call control and manipulation and insecurity.

Loving God’s way means allowing each other to be who God created you to be. God never asks anyone to rewrite or rewire the way He created someone, which is why He’ll never put in you situation where you have to. Yes, there are some destructive bad habits and attitudes that need to be done away with but the nature and essence of who someone is, who they are.

 

2. It’s a great feeling to be around someone who’s full of Joy. God is joy!

After God spoke the heavens and the earth into existence, He created light and distinguished it from dark. He also separated the skies from the water, spoke animals and all other living organisms that roam this earth into existence and he created man. Everything He created, He said it was “good.” To call something good means there’s excitement and delight in what you made.

Life is challenging and riddled with seen and unforeseen obstacles. To spend the rest of your life with someone who’s pessimistic and condemning, who speaks the opposite of life and hope, is to be with someone who doesn’t have a spirit of joy. Bitter people are equipped to speak disbelief and doubt. Question. Are you pursuing someone who’s speaking doubt and discouragement into your life?

In a relationship, joy looks like encouragement and inspiration, love and passion, positivity and optimism, faith and hope. I hear people say all the time “I’m just being real” or “rationale.” Of course, something’s are what they are, but faith can breathe and function in high and low places. Whereas, reason doesn’t have the perspective to see beyond its own limitations or speak faith when things seem bleak. Reason doesn’t have the ability to comprehend that there’s a second chance or another opportunity. Nor can it sense that what God has placed within you, will come to pass. You want to be with someone who knows God, who has faith in Him and who has truly walked by faith. You could have all the book knowledge about God or have sound theology, but if you’re knowledge and theology has never become practical in your life, it will show. Others will see your experience with the Divine is rigid and insensitive one. A relationship is an emotional and spiritual affair.

With joy in your heart, your presence alone can act as a healing and therapeutic agent to the love of your life, when they are experiencing tough times of their own. Having your spirit lifted reignite hope. I’m sure it has an impact on your immune system.

3. Peace is the very thing that keeps all things together working in harmony and the way it was designed to function. God is peace!

Someone who’s hot-tempered and has a big ego often have difficulties communicating and seeing their faults. Communication is challenge for them because they’re emotions are overriding their ability to think and reason clearly. See, reason isn’t all that bad 😉 It’s possible to come to a mutual understanding resolution when peace isn’t in your heart. But when you have in you, you’re able to communication without malice and anger, and admit your wrongs without reservation of feeling humiliated or embarrassed. You can’t give pride a seat in your relationship. It will eventually want to take the driver seat and take control. The destination is destruction.

A heart without peace is a concoction for destruction.

4.God is patient with you, therefore practice patience with the person you’re with.

He wants you to practice the same kind of patience with the love of your life that He has with you. Patience simply means to keep your cool when your emotions are telling you not to, to endure uncomfortable times without condemnation and to love the love of your life when you don’t feel like loving.

Living to see another day to experience God’s presence is an act of His love and patience.  Could you imagine God losing His cool with you when you made a mistake? Could you imagine Him throwing your sins in your face when He forgave you for something you did 5 years ago, last week or yesterday. Unfortunately, this is what some people do. They “forgive you” for the offense, but later remind of you of faults later. In a way, it’s like betrayal. Condemnation is a painful emotional blow and a reminder for someone to feel what they felt when they did you wrong. It’s unfair and insensitive to condemn someone. This is what Satan does folks.

You can’t be condemn and practice impatient, and love at the same time.

5.  God is kind by showering you with compliments every single day. For example, he lets you know that you’re beautiful, intelligent and gifted through the sincere words of someone else. When you open your eyes in the morning, He saw fit to still believe and have confidence that you will fulfill His will for your life.  When He sends you a word of encouragement through someone, that you are better than your past, God is reminding you that He loves you and thinks otherwise of you, despite when you or others may think less of yourself. He’s grace and mercy is like fertile ground for you to grow and flourish.

How often do you give the love of your life compliments? Do you tell that person how good they look often? Do you thank them for listening to you, offering you sound advice or praying with you? Do you tell each other that you believe in each other? Are you presence of help or discouragement?

Being kind to the love of your life is like watering a plant. Shower each other with kindness.

6. To impart something into someone else without a romantic ulterior motive or to receive something back is generous. What if God did things for you to receive some monetary or self-gratifying pleasure? Is that love or generosity? Yes, He wants your worship and praise, but even that isn’t forced on you. He receives your worship and praise when it’s done out love and sincerity. Hence, freewill 😉

Many people in relationships go out their way to please their significant other, but have the thought in the back of their mind “that I better get something back.” That’s not love, nor is it being generous. Romantic ulterior motives often backfire. You’re not a “help” to someone if your motive is to draw closer to that person. You are a potential distraction to the aim at mind, and giving to receive, more than likely, results to disappointment.

When there’s a cycle of generous giving in a relationship, no one is withholding their best or is concerned about receiving: The focus on each other, and not on the self.

7.  God is faithful to you, so be faithful to the one He’s blessed you with. Faithfulness is who God is.

It’s becoming more difficult to find true love these days. There are so many poor devices of influence lingering in social media, television and the radio airwaves that its provoking people to seek love to benefit the self or to use their bodies to find something meaningful. And because of failed relationships and disappointment, many people are guarded and reserved. So, if you do find the kind of person God whispered in your heart that you would find, you better hold on to it.

It takes discipline and constant reminders of God’s blessing to be faithful. Faithfulness means keeping your heart and love in the right place. As well as, your mind, body and spirit. Faithfulness means not engaging someone else in a way that could incite romantic feelings, within you or someone else. Faithfulness means to be conscious of your conduct and conversation with someone. Faithful means to never give someone the idea that they can have you in any kind of romantic or sexual way. Faithfulness means confiding in the love of your life. Faithfulness means guarding each other’s interest, and being there for each other, emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually available to your significant other. They are your best friend, and confidant.

8. God is gentle; therefore He is gentle with us. 

Gentleness employed in a relationship would look like mutual respect and kindness, sympathy (never apathy) and benevolence. Also, being considerate of each other’s feeling and perspectives, although you may disagree.

It’s important for a man to be gentle to a woman. Her heart and emotions are the most sensitive parts of her. Empathy reveals you can listen and understand her. Empathy is what brings you two closer. And from a woman to a man, she must also choose her words carefully, as well as using certain pitches in her tone of voice. Men have extremely big egos, because we have to uphold a sense of strength and confidence. When the ego is stroked the wrong way, a man will respond indifferent to you.  Never talk down to each other, but always lift each other with love and respect.

9.  Woosah, aka, Self-control. We’ve seen an angry God in the Old Testament scriptures, but He had to get angry to discipline humanity for their disobedience. I’m not using this example to use fire and brimstone against the love of your life.

God’s spirit needs to be in you to practice self-control, because you’re not able to overcome temptations or stop the momentum of your emotions when they’re rising up to the surface. Self-control will save your relationship/marriage. We all know the countless stories of infidelity, verbal and physical abuse, the weight gaining stories, and other emotional, physical and spiritual ailments that have destroyed the lives of many people. Self-control is going to help you stay in God’s will, whole and healthy. Anything that happens in His will, maybe His will.

Self-control demonstrated in a relationship is either two people walking away from a heated argument so things could cool down, or listening to each other perspectives to gain a better understanding, and not talking over each other to prove the other person wrong. Disagreements ultimately serve the purpose of learning someone else thinks and reasons, and how they feel about certain things. Arguing is destructive. It seeks to belittle, embarrass or hurt the person you don’t see eye-to-eye with.

I believe one reason God joins two together other than experiencing love is to a ministry together. When you’re serving in God’s purpose, you’re going to have to engage in battle and fight life changes together. That’s love and teamwork. It’s not God’s will to battle and war against other.

Loving each other God’s way will help bring out the best of two in a relationship. It’s going to lengthen its years, and keep the passion and vigor. Pray for the 9 fruits of God’s holy spirit, so you can love each other the way He designed you two to love.

 

 

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The Temptation of Reliving the Past: When Old Feelings Surface

To return to what God led you away from is to jeopardize where he wants to take you with the person he has for you. –Melvin Davis

What do I do now that I’m “single”? is a question many people find themselves asking when they have “moved” on from a failed relationship. You’re somewhat emotionally detached, and you’re somewhat ready to give love through someone new. However, a flashback of the “good times” crosses your mind. Those fond memories emerge with joy, somehow putting a smile on your face, until you think about the toxic and heated arguments, and the intense moments of feeling unappreciated and emotionally and spiritually disconnected. You also remember those signs of unfaithfulness and lies, being ignored and uncared for. You cried next to that person in bed until no more tears could produce from your heart. You’ve talked to so many people about the situation until your mouth grew tired. The truth made itself known to you. And you even prayed about the relationship once more, and God showed you a clear painting of the situation. In fact, you saw the view of the picture from many angles. God showed you why it’s not his will, and where it will land you if you continued to stay in the relationship. His presence penetrated deep into your heart, that you had to stop doing what your were doing to sit still and gather yourself. You felt the ache bearing deep within that you couldn’t rest well at night, or concentrate during the day.  I want to talk about The Temptation of Reliving the Past.

It’s easy to return to the familiar, because you don’t have to put in the work of getting to know someone new all over again. It takes time and patience getting to know someone, which is something you probably don’t have. You’re short on patience. These days, there isn’t much legroom for mistakes. You have probably thought about returning to that person who didn’t appreciate you, than to give some else a chance who would appreciate and deeply love you. You’re ready to write someone off, because again, you don’t have the “patience.” After all, you “know” the person you were with.

To return to what God led you away from is to jeopardize where he wants to take you with the person he has for you. You have to remind yourself why the relationship didn’t work. Besides that you were toxic for each other, there was probably one prominent force at hand that was working against you two. It wasn’t God’s will.  What’s not in God’s will have no chance at life. Of course, you could make it work, but forcing love into the equation where it’s supposed to develop naturally, just isn’t worth it. Your “I love you’s” will have no feeling or passion behind it. And the touch or the holding of hands will not produce any feelings of love, comfort and assurance that this is the person God has for you.  When you step outside of God’s will, you’re forfeiting being valued and appreciated, love and cared for, respected and adored. You’re giving up your sanity/ peace of mind, because faithfulness and commitment will always be called into question when you’re not in that person’s presence. You’re also giving up the chance to build two important foundations a God-ordained relationship should stand on, which are a friendship and a spiritual connection. Without any of these positive components, love has nothing to stand on.

Before you think about reopening a closed chapter, remember why the relationship failed. God led you away from that person for a very important reason. It wasn’t his will. To return to the past is to jeopardize where he wants to take you with the person he has for you. But that page of finding new love can’t be read until you move on from the past.

In my novel Love Again, Jennifer is temped to return to the past but she comes to her senses. Let’s take a look.

Jennifer took a seat, removed her sunglasses, and got right to it.

“Robert, you know how much I still care for you.”

“Oh, here we go,” he complained, interrupting.

 “I’ve thought about you often throughout the years. I’ve often wondered what life would’ve been like if we’d gotten back together again. But after meeting up with you in New York and DC, I admit, some old feelings resurfaced, but they quickly faded away. I don’t feel the same way for you as I once did before.”

“What do you mean?” His nostrils flared up.

“What I’m saying that it’s too late to make up for what happened several years ago,” she said blinking back tears.” Time has passed. I’ve met someone new now, someone who has believed in me since day one, someone who understands me, someone who I pushed away.”

“Like you’re doing to me now?”

“No! I’m not pushing you away. I’m freeing us from one another so that we can be open to experience love from someone else. I’m sorry Robert, but I don’t see myself being with you. I don’t see us getting married.”

Here Jennifer comes to her senses. She remember all that happened in the past, and some people just don’t change. What’s in God’s will has a second chance.

Thank you for reading my blog. I would like to ask you to take a few minutes to check out my video on indiegogo. I’m raising funds to self-publish my novel Love Again.

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