I rather capture your heart and mind than catch your eye.-Melvin Davis

 

When you haven’t experienced a deeper level of love, physical attraction speaks in high volumes, and is first over the underlying important tangibles that sustain love. Love is more than just physical attraction. I’m not suggesting that it doesn’t matter. The reality is that good looks don’t always translate into love, faithfulness or respect. More often, it’s the opposite. When you experienced a deeper and greater depth of beauty in someone else, your definition and views of attraction expands. It changes and evolves into something more realistic, mature and meaningful.

A spiritual, soulful connection is more powerful than physical attraction. There’s something ethereal about a spiritual, soulful connection. Imagine looking at a book without words. The page is bare, yet you could feel something surging inside of you that sing the tune of your heart. And that escorts your spirit to tropical islands and into heavenly realms. You can’t see the words, yet you feel them. You can’t see the words, yet you see the image that’s being painted in your mind. It’s perfect. A masterpiece. A spiritual, soulful connection works the same way. You could sit in each other’s presence, and communicate without words; touch without holding hands, because the love that’s nettling you two closer together resides under the coat of your skin.

I rather capture a woman’s heart and mind, now to add, spirit than her eye. Physical attraction withers away everyday, and an unforeseen freak accident could happen. If I won her over good looks, well, there’s go her interest and the relationship. But if she found beauty in my heart, mind and spirit, I know she’ll stay. I’ve found a Proverbs 31 kind of woman.

Stay tuned for another upcoming short blog called The Beauty of Imperfections  

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A Deeper Attraction

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In this scene, Jennifer and her new acquaintance Samantha made reservations at a restaurant. To make use of their time, they decided to scroll around the mall. A conversation comes about “finding the one,” and “soul mates.”

“Isn’t this beautiful?” Samantha said, approaching Tiffany & Co. Stung by Samantha’s remark, Jennifer had decided to cool it with Samantha, but she was instantly awestruck when saw the huge, diamond-clustered, platinum ring on display. She got closer, nearly pressing her face against the window to see.

“It is,” Jennifer said in a low voice, tucking her words under the hope of marrying the man she’d yearned and prayed to be with.

“Ever plan to get married?” Samantha asked.

“I‘d love to get married,” Jennifer said with a mixture of optimism and defeat.

”You don’t sound too sure.”

“I would. Some day. I have no control over that,” Jennifer answered, turning her attention briefly to Samantha. “This time around, I’m no longer making decisions based solely on how I feel about someone. There must be a sign from heaven,” she said with strong conviction, returning her attention to the ring. “What I feel has to be beyond emotional,” she said solemnly. “Which I think I felt recently.”

“With David?” Samantha asked.

“Yes. When I first saw him last night, and this morning too. I felt something stirring within. Never felt that before, to be honest—kind of scared me. He felt it too. He told me this morning, but I didn’t let him know that I did. I was too scared.”

“Scared of what?” Asked Samantha.

“I don’t know.”

“I have no idea what you’re talking about, but it sounds like you believe in soul mates.”

“I’m not sure,” Jennifer said, still staring at the ring. She pictured someone sliding that beautiful piece of jewelry onto her finger. “I thought my ex was my soulmate, but I was wrong. I guess having a deep connection with someone really doesn’t mean they’re your soulmate.”

“I don’t believe in those romantic theories—like soulmates,” said Samantha matter-of-factly. “You choose whoever you please.” She looked at Jennifer, who was still gazing at the ring. “Wanna try it on?”

“Uh, sure—couldn’t hurt.” Jennifer smiled sheepishly, and they went inside the store.

This time around, Jennifer is looking for something else beyond of what her emotions can tell her about someone or to determine if she’s found the one God set aside for her. I believe that many women (men too) face this dilemma.

Emotions come and go. They fluctuate. The move from hot to lukewarm to cold. One day, you’re really into someone, and the next day you aren’t. I believe when the time comes, when God prompts our heart to fully receive who he has in front of us, you’ll know.

My novel Love Again is slated to be released in June. If you like to support my campaign in raising funds for the professional services I need to release a quality novel, here’s the link to contribute. I’m offering free incentives to donator’s, which is outlined on my fundraiser page. Thanks for your time.

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An Open Letter to My Future Wife

 

To My Future Wife,

 

I penned this letter now instead of later, because I want to thank God in advance for you. I already know you’re going to be an amazing woman. You’re going to be exactly what I prayed for. And by the time I meet you, I’m going to be everything you need me to be. So whoever you are, wherever you are, here’s an open letter I want to send to you, for all to see. I know you’ll be a testimony of my patience. I hope that your heart to open to receive these words.

 

I know that you’re probably in another situation now. Maybe you’re trying to work things out with the guy you’re with. Maybe your heart is healing from a terrible breakup, one that you invested a great deal of your time and energy in. Perhaps there are some other personal issues going on in your life, that’s preventing you from walking into mine.  May be we just haven’t met. Whatever that’s going in your life, there’s no rush. God’s timing is perfect. We will grace each other eyes and touch each other’s heart. We will enjoy plenty of days and evenings together, whether conversing about life, laughing about something silly, or doing something we both enjoy. I want you to know, that wherever you are in life, I’m praying for you to experience wholeness. I want you to be complete and happy, full of joy before you meet me. I’m going to look at you as a compliment to my life—only to add to it—never to subtract or divide from it.

 

And you’re not the only who’s being prepared for marriage. While I’m waiting on you, God is shaping me into the man he wants me to be for you: A protector and a provider, a great communicator, and a spiritual leader. He also wants me to be a great lover, a man who can make love to the deepest parts of you, and who can also be intimate without physical touch.  He’s molding me into a man who’s transparent, and vulnerable–vulnerable enough to accept you in my life without reservation of being hurt. He’s building my trust in him, so I can fully trust you, my blessing.

 

I want to end this letter by saying: I look forward to developing a wonderful friendship with you: One that’s based on open and honest communication, trust and prayer. I look forward to learning everything about you. I want to know the woman behind closed doors that many seldom see. I want to know what’s inside your heart, because that’s where your true treasure lies. I want to know what’s in your spirit, because that’s where your true beauty lies. I want to know you before I propose to you.

 

Until we cross paths, don’t rush love. We’ll find each other soon. I know it. I can feel it. I’ll see you soon.

 

David Bradshaw,

 

 

Thank you for reading the introduction of my novel. To listen to the audio version on youtube, here’s the link: http://youtu.be/OVjSamRZUh0

For information about my novel, check out my video below.

 

 

 

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God always gives two people the same revelation about each other. That’s how you know if that person is the one for you.

There’s much to be said about knowing if you’re really with the “one” or if the person you’re fond of or currently dating is God “sent.” But for now, I will say this:

An intense emotion that someone evokes you as a result of the kind of impact of who they are or what they do, shouldn’t be mistaken for a spiritual experience. There’s a fine line between intense emotions and a spiritual happening. Although we may feel strongly about someone, it doesn’t suggest they are the one for you. It is God who lets you know beyond the height of your emotions that she or he is in your life to be taken as a husband or wife.

I will hold off on elaborating further until I post my podcast about “How to Figure out Someone’s Relationship Patterns: What You Should Know Before Making a Commitment.”

Stay on the look out.

One who walks with God will know the things of God concerning his or her love life.

God always give…

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Update on My Novel

Before I get into what I have to say, I first want thank all who have supported me since day one. I started off posting quotes—really just tampering around with thoughts and feeling but venting from a breakup in 2008. Some of you may remember the short stories I posted on FB. The responses were pretty good considering where I was at in writing. Some of you encouraged me to write a book, and years later, I did. Life puts us in a different direction at times. I never wanted to write a novel. I wanted to be the next Dr. Cornel West….”just sayin.”

Thank you again for waiting patiently for the release my novel. I have worked diligently on Unconditionally Yours (title subject to change) for about two years now or some where around there. It’s difficult writing when life deals you with so many obstacles and unexpected changes and transitions. It’s difficult writing when you’re trying to make ends meet or coming across relationship with people who don’t understand the journey God has placed you on. The road to success is quite lonely, but I am thankful for the family and friends, strangers, well, shall I say angels, who God had me crossed paths with when I felt like giving up. I literally would have a long time ago if he wasn’t for God picking me back up.

My novel has been edited and I’m currently making revisions. I have a friend, writer and editor, by the name of Ariel Driskell, who has helped me shape my story in the direction I want it to be. I thank her for her patience.

Unconditionally Yours has a total of seventeen chapters, and I’m revising twelve while my editor is editing chapter nine. I plan to have my novel proofread before I submit it literally agents. Yes, I’m going the traditional route, so it’s going to take my time to see my novel on the shelves of Barnes & Nobles and other bookstores.

Once again, thanks for your patience and support. I promise you wont’ be disappointed with the finished product. I know it will be a success—it’s just a matter of time.

Until then, I hope you continue to enjoy my quotes and blogs. Stay tuned for my podcasts.

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She is the Inspiration Behind My Writing

No matter how long it’s been since I talked to you thoughts of you never remain distant

Your presence, your smile, your laugh, your hair, your skin, your spirit, your ambition, your work ethic, all of who you are inspired me to write This is What You Do To Me

I continue to ask myself, “Who are you? And where did you come from?” You left footprints on my heart that no one could erase after I open up to them

“Would you erase them?”

Pink fingernail polish you wore me at my request. You put the biggest smile on my face

Being in your presence alone aroused the better than me

No thoughts of lust you, only ones pure in spirit

I want to love you God’s way

The impact you left on me inspires me to write about love because I am still in…

How could I confess such words not hearing from you in so long?

What do I hope? Why do I dream? Why do I still pray? Why do I still think of you?

I tried to let go, but my heart is indifferent

If I never hear your voice again or lay eyes on your beauty, I have no regrets approaching you

The impact you had on my life helped me to discover my gift in writing, helped me to develop a stronger and more intimate relationship with God

Heck, you birthed a novel out of me

I wonder what how I would write if the thought and feeling of you cease to exist

But that day hasn’t come yet and what I feel is like a stubborn stain that refuses to come, so I write with passion unapologetically

You are my inspiration

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Learn Her Love Language and Articulate it Confidently Pt. I

Learn her love language and articulate it confidently followed by action.–Melvin Davis

I believe at the core of every woman, no matter how rough she’s been sanded by the hardships of life, she still has a soft side. She wants to be courted and romanced. I want to take a few paragraphs to expound in what I believe women really want from men. I may be wrong in sharing my perspectives here, shooting from the hip as many people say, but it’s worth the shot. Read this poetically if you will. No matter how sensitive, evasive, guarded and defensive a woman can be, by nature, by desire, at heart, she has a soft, feminine place. She desires to be desired and yearns to be loved.

A woman’s love language is the way she wants a man to love and treat her. Every woman has a love language of her own. Some women are strictly feminine, as in gentle, girly-girly, soft and delicate. And these characteristics trickle over in her conversation, body language, her conduct, the way she socializes with others, her style and dress. So the romantic kind of guy, one who is a gentleman, who has the same attributes listed above, but that of a masculine version, will more than likely, be suitable for her.  Other women who are not so girlish, a little on the edgy and aggressive side, as I have come to learn, like men to match their attitude, language and social behavior. And then there’s the woman who posses both the feminine and edgy side. Note: I mentioned certain feminine types because I think it’s important for a man to know the love language of the woman he pursues so he can proceed accordingly. I tend to lean toward the feminine, slightly edgy kind of woman because balance is good. I’ve dated women that were only edgy. It’s quite interesting to listen their comments about how they perceive me. Some aggressive women perceive me as “different,” and “rare,” and others just don’t know how to respond or interact with me. As much as these women think I’m a good fit for them, which stems from thought of trying something “new,” I know deep down inside they know I’m not, and vice versa. Because I’m drawn to the more feminine kind of woman, my approach is gentle, respectful, and not so much aggressive, not do I use vulgar language. Of course aggression is needed when necessary;) I think for the person who wants to try something new, something new must happen within you.

Honesty is one love language a woman’s wants a man to speak (men too). She’s heard the romantic and sweet-talk before, and regardless how pleasant it sounds; she wants to hear something new and refreshing. Originality and authenticity should be on the shelf of every man’s thoughts at any given moment. You don’t know whom you’re going to come across paths or make eye contact with.  The cliché is true that there’s nothing new under the sun, but you can reword the cliché and actually follow up with action. This will enable a woman to believe that you’re being sincere and honest when you approach her. She wants you to look her in the eye and tell her exactly what you want from her so she could on the same page with you. Honesty will take you far in a woman’s heart, maybe to the point of drawing tears of joy and relief from her eyes because she’s been lied to quite often, mistreated and taken for granted. Honesty will also cultivate great, spiritual intimate relationship.

Friendship and simplicity is also another love language of a woman. Be friends first. Do the simple stuff in life. Fancy dining’s and other fancy outing’s are great, however, she’s probably used to that too. My philosophy: Let the fancy wining and dining compliment the foundation you have built with a friendship by doing the simple things in life. Going to a beach or a nice waterfront to listen to the waters converse with each other under the warm rays of sun, with the wings of angels conjuring up winds to whisper poetic verses from nature, sitting side by side getting to know the true matters of her heart e.g., things she hasn’t shared with her best friend (s) or others who she considers closes to her. And while having these kinds of heart felt conversations, a tone of honesty and sincerity and eye contact will set her emotions at ease. At this point, she’s vulnerable and listening. Eye contact lets her know that you’re actually listening and interested in what she has to say. In return, she will take the time to know the true matters of your heart as well. This is an effective way to develop a great friendship, which will increase the chances of having a wonderful relationship. And after you have built a strong foundation of friendship, wining and dining it totally appropriate. This will let you know that you’re not wasting $$$, because people, and relationships for that matter, are an investment. This will also send a message to her that you’re not wining and dining to get some loving.

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