She Still Loves Him

In this scene of my novel, Jennifer is trying to move on with life without David.

“The live atmosphere of Sushi Tara was what Jennifer needed. It lifted her spirits this night. This was the third weekend in a row she hung out with her co-workers. They were doing a good job of pulling Jennifer out of the rut she was falling in. Men approached her for dates. She turned them all down. While David was absent, he still had her heart. He was like no other man she had ever met. He was gentle and kind, a romantic but not to the extreme. He had edge and balance to go along with great communication and understanding. He was the first man who made her feel safe and secure. He was also the first man who believed in her dreams. He was an inspiration to her.  He pushed her not give up, and she didn’t, because he wouldn’t let her. While Jennifer was chatting with her co-workers, she felt a light tap on her shoulder. And there was Samantha, towering over her in a tan riding jacket, red pants with suede patches inside the knees and a white shirt to match her brown high heel sandals.”


God always gives two people the same revelation about each other. That’s how you know if that person is the one for you.

There’s much to be said about knowing if you’re really with the “one” or if the person you’re fond of or currently dating is God “sent.” But for now, I will say this:

An intense emotion that someone evokes you as a result of the kind of impact of who they are or what they do, shouldn’t be mistaken for a spiritual experience. There’s a fine line between intense emotions and a spiritual happening. Although we may feel strongly about someone, it doesn’t suggest they are the one for you. It is God who lets you know beyond the height of your emotions that she or he is in your life to be taken as a husband or wife.

I will hold off on elaborating further until I post my podcast about “How to Figure out Someone’s Relationship Patterns: What You Should Know Before Making a Commitment.”

Stay on the look out.

One who walks with God will know the things of God concerning his or her love life.

God always give…


Update on My Novel

Before I get into what I have to say, I first want thank all who have supported me since day one. I started off posting quotes—really just tampering around with thoughts and feeling but venting from a breakup in 2008. Some of you may remember the short stories I posted on FB. The responses were pretty good considering where I was at in writing. Some of you encouraged me to write a book, and years later, I did. Life puts us in a different direction at times. I never wanted to write a novel. I wanted to be the next Dr. Cornel West….”just sayin.”

Thank you again for waiting patiently for the release my novel. I have worked diligently on Unconditionally Yours (title subject to change) for about two years now or some where around there. It’s difficult writing when life deals you with so many obstacles and unexpected changes and transitions. It’s difficult writing when you’re trying to make ends meet or coming across relationship with people who don’t understand the journey God has placed you on. The road to success is quite lonely, but I am thankful for the family and friends, strangers, well, shall I say angels, who God had me crossed paths with when I felt like giving up. I literally would have a long time ago if he wasn’t for God picking me back up.

My novel has been edited and I’m currently making revisions. I have a friend, writer and editor, by the name of Ariel Driskell, who has helped me shape my story in the direction I want it to be. I thank her for her patience.

Unconditionally Yours has a total of seventeen chapters, and I’m revising twelve while my editor is editing chapter nine. I plan to have my novel proofread before I submit it literally agents. Yes, I’m going the traditional route, so it’s going to take my time to see my novel on the shelves of Barnes & Nobles and other bookstores.

Once again, thanks for your patience and support. I promise you wont’ be disappointed with the finished product. I know it will be a success—it’s just a matter of time.

Until then, I hope you continue to enjoy my quotes and blogs. Stay tuned for my podcasts.


The Intro to The Workings of a Happy Woman: Keeping a Smile on Her Face

A smile on a woman’s face is a sign of the quality of your labor.–Melvin Davis

Before I went to bed last night, I read the scripture about Christ washing His disciples feet before His crucifixion. If you were familiar with this text, you’d understand that foot washing is a pure act of humility and service. After reading, without trying to apply foot washing to anything or anyone, the idea came to mind of couching foot washing in the context of marriage, in a way of how I would treat my future wife and how I believe a woman should be treated.

Unconditional love is an act of humility and service.

Throughout my dating experiences, I suffered some upsets, disappointments and a broken heart or two. I know when I meet my wife, I’m sure I would be overwhelmed with joy, because of what I mentioned above, the patience, and the constant challenge of keeping in mind God’s timing in allowing things to fall in place.

In order to cultivate a close, intimate relationship with a mature woman, and keep a smile on her face, you have to do something you haven’t done before. Furthermore, you have to engage her in a way she’s not accustomed to. Connecting with her on a spiritual, emotional, intellectual and physical level will position you to keep a smile on her face.

So far, I have an idea of where this blog is heading but I’m still a little fuzzy. I do know Pt. I of this blog will start at the soles of a woman’s feet (relating foot-washing experience. ) More than likely, I will end with crown of her head, while working in the spiritual, emotional and intellectual aspect of engaging her.

Stay tuned.


You Are My Queen

In the nude, your beauty reaches its highest pinnacle, sculpted like a queen who sustains and nourishes her temple

Your mind and intellect wakes me, stirs me with infinite satisfaction, you have yet to lose my interest

I kneel to kiss your hand, because the spirit of God within you sanctions me to

You have no idea how much you mean to me

You’re worth than the wealth I could ever obtain. I would choose you over it

You changed my life simply by your presence: I accredit my success to you

Without you, I am complete, but with you–you compliment me

I love everything about you

I’m glad I waited for you: you were worth the patience, worth the tears of

my deep yearning, worth every word in this prose

The best thing that ever happened to me was letting go of a past love. And the greatest

thing that happened to me was finding you

I’m thankful to spend the rest of my life with you


My Proposal

Magnificent you are; you are the most beautiful woman my eyes have seen, the most beautiful voice my ears have heard. “Where are you from?” I continue to ask myself

Your spirit, so gentle, so pleasant, so sweet, so pure, so full of faith, so full of God, it speaks the same language of faith as mine. You are my true connection, my equal

I’d be honor to take you by the hand, to kneel at your precious feet, and utter these words that stems from my heart, soul and spirit:

I would love to spend the rest of my life with you

My faithfulness resides in the fact, that you are a gift from God, therefore you are a blessing I cannot take for granted

I want to be your best friend, you’re greatest lover.  I want the honor to be both

I want to love you until the day I see wrinkles on your face. I want to sit with you under the sun, in the cool breeze of night, feeling the mist of rain on our aces in a storm, recounting the day I first met you

But in our youth, let us enjoy these moments as if it was our last. Let us travel the world, photograph each other and monuments, and make love in intimate spaces. May I have that honor?

You are the woman I want to share my life and blessings with, to grow together in our faith and purpose in God

I would be honored to be your husband, and for you, to be my wife

Will you marry me?


Learn Her Love Language of Intimacy and Love Her Accordingly, Pt. II

Intimacy is a composite of special acts and sincere something’s that brings two closer together.–Melvin Davis


For some men, being intimate with a woman takes on many perspectives. Two that are very common are buying gifts and lovemaking, which is true to an extent. Men buy gifts for their significant other to show that they’re thoughtful and to simply put a smile on her face. There isn’t anything that needs to be said about lovemaking: self-explanatory. However, I want to add something to the equation, perhaps to broaden, maybe redefine for other’s, how intimacy is viewed and how to engage a woman in a relationship that will make the previous men she dated not add up to you. This isn’t a matter of a man competing with men in a woman’s past, but it’s one that will let her know why thing’s didn’t workout with previous guys.

Praying with a woman is one way to speak her love language of intimacy. One, you’re showing her that you want to be included into her personal relationship with God. While believers may come together to worship God in a building, but at home, when no one is looking, we have a private and special kind of relationship with God that we don’t allow others to see. Whenever a woman asks you to pray with her, she wants you to see her spiritual side and what kind of relationship with God she has. She also wants yours. Men have a tendency to think financial stability and good looks is all it takes to woo a woman. Not so. A man’s true strength and attractiveness lies in God, his relationship with God.

Two, praying with someone is a time of holding hands and listening to the matters of each other’s heart. Touch within itself is powerful, as well as listening. A simple hug can brighten up someone’s day or a pat on the back, but just imagine the power of touch and listening in prayer. The holding of hands in prayer lets a woman know that she’s not alone. So many women feel so alone in their relationships because their man doesn’t bother to offer prayer or a listening ear. When this happens, she will start to become emotionally detached. When you take time to just listen to a woman, in a way, her world stops. The fact that you’re actually listening to her as she confide in you the deepest feelings and joys about what’s happening to her will set you apart, because most men hear, but they don’t listen. Listening lets her know that you care and praying with her reveals your presence.

Three, there’s power in leadership. Whether women articulate this or not, she wants a man to be the spiritual leader of her relationship. Not to say that women aren’t leaders or aren’t capable of being a leader, history has proven this without argument or debate, but whenever a woman has to be the leader in a relationship, she is going against the nature in her place in a sacred union: God created man to be the spiritual leader in his relationship, not a woman, although she often when he man neglects his relationship with God. Note: when a man neglects his relationship with God, he will eventually start to neglect his woman. Your relationship with God will determine the success of your relationship. How you view God will reflect how you view your significant other. In other words, as I see it, God is a gift. The relationship I have with Him is a gift. Therefore, when God blesses me with a wife, a woman who is patient, carries herself in high-esteem, with integrity and respect, with elegance and sophistication, a woman who is God-fearing, knowing that I will probably make mistakes, it is my prayer that I will not take her for granted, nor will I neglect or mistreat. It will be my responsibility to love her in a triune way: in mind, body and spirit. Praying with a woman reveals that you actually have a prayer life. Meaning, you don’t just pray when you’re in church.

In closing, prayer works wonders in a relationship. I believe prayer is a woman’s love language of intimacy. There are many components that make lovemaking a spiritual and heartfelt occasion. Prayer is one of them. Prayer brings you closer to a woman’s heart. Prayer lets her know that she’s not alone. It also lets her know that you care. Show her that you care.  Praying with her shows that you love her.