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How a Man of God Longs to Love a godly Woman

A man truly walking with God and in the love and compassion of Christ seeks something so much deeper and meaningful with you. His perception about love and a relationship isn’t found in the elementary discourse of lust. A one-night stand isn’t on the menu when he’s pursuing you. He turns his head away from women who present their self in a way to make a man stumble. Sensuality doesn’t have place in love. Seduction is bait for lust. Profanity doesn’t have a seat in conversation. Vanity is also a disservice. In vanity, there’s not enough room the share the stage of your life, because everything will be about you.  A man of God knows a self-absorbed person will suck the life out of you. Offering him the ways of the world instead of the mind of Christ isn’t going to work. He’s gazing behind your beauty to see if there’s a future with you. He’s browsing the landscape of your spirit to detect faithfulness or a lack thereof. The Hebrew translation of Proverbs 18:22 reads, “Who finds a wife find what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” There’s more in this statement than the obvious. What makes a wife “good” in the sight of God is that she’s obedient and has an intimate relationship with Him. She’s deeply in love and planted in God. She’s virtue and capable. She’s a rarity in the midst of popular worldly conformity. Her Christian life isn’t a religious or a secular one. She comes to add to a relationship—never plotting to divide or subtract from it. Although flawed, she tries to reflect the image and love of Christ. A woman of God is “good” because of what she brings to the relationship. She bares the anointing and favor of God. Therefore, her husband is blessed and receives what God has graced her with. Vice versa. I could go on, but I’ll place a bookmark here. A man of God knows “good” and “favor” isn’t package in seduction, immaturity, inconsistency, indecisiveness or mind games. A good wife is a holy, pure wife who has a made up mind. She knows what she wants. She is the “good thing” God refers to, and because of a man’s intimate relationship with God, he receives the favor to marry a woman as such.

Before I provide examples of how a man of God desires to love a godly woman, it’s important to point out a distinction here. What love and a relationship look like in Christ is different from the world’s definition and perception of it. This isn’t a judgmental statement. I don’t have the authority to condemn. Neither do I walk with a heart of judgment and condemnation. I aim to walk in the love, understanding and compassion of Christ; however, I have to speak the truth according to the Gospel. Whether it’s favorable or unfavorable. The truth in the word of God will offend and hit some sensitive spots in you. I know the feeling. After all, according to Hebrews 4:12, “the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” The word of God does many things. It encourages, guides and strengthens. It also rebukes and corrects. It will point out your wrongs and shortcomings so you can strengthen those areas you stumble in. Those who stand far and run away from reproach and correction never grow. They never take on the image of Christ.

Love in the context of Christianity is rooted in the fruits of the Spirit, which all are visibly seen in the person of Christ. What God sees as strength, the world interprets as weakness. It’s a sign of weakness for a man to express how he feels or to show emotion. If you can’t show emotion with the woman you’re with, you’re with a woman who doesn’t know God. Her mind and attitude is in the world and not in Christ. I don’t know what man could stand in the presence of God and can contain himself. We’re just not that strong enough. No human being is. In the world, a man has to be an “alpha male,” which is a dominate, aggressive, borderline cold throat person, a “manly man.” He also has to raise his voice or flex his muscle to show his wife who’s in charge. Sadly, some women embrace this false ideology of masculinity and strength. None of those qualities are found in Christ or describe who he is, so it baffles me when I hear Christians strive to fit the shoe that Christ never wore. The Son of God walked in love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance. The world says, step on to step up, compete with each other, and gossip to tear another down, lash out and fight back when wronged. Competition has it’s time and place, but not in a marriage. God says in Exodus 14:14, “The Lord will fight for you. You need only to be still.” I know this is true for a fact. I saw God speak on my behalf and humble many people in my presence. Both men and women are to walk in all fruits of the spirit–no matter what the world or society says. Compare an alpha male or female to The Son of God, and tell me who’s stronger.

I am all for women having equaled rights and pay. I support women in leadership positions. I’m team Bernie Sanders all the way. When a woman wants to lead in a relationship, that presents a big problem. Women who embrace the “alpha female” concept have difficulty allowing a man being a man in her presence. She has a problem with being led. The word “submission” to her also has an unpleasant ring to it, because 1) they do not understand or haven’t fully embrace the ways of God.2. They forgot what was said Ephesians 5: 21 and they stop reading at verse 22. I’m not going to take up much time of your time in explaining this, however, here’s the full scripture and gist of what God is saying through it.

Ephesians 21-32 reads:

21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

  1. Husband and wife must submit to Christ if they are to submit to each other.
  2. Since God made man the spiritual leader in the marriage (Genesis 2:7), the woman is to submit to him. There’s a reason why God created Adam first. Adam was created to first establish an intimate relationship Him before a woman. There are men doing it the other way around. They’re putting the desires of their heart before God. Women too. Notice how God established a relationship with Adam first before creating Eve. That’s why man is the head of the household. Not only that, God created Adam first because of the nature and responsibility of the environment he was to nurture and keep up. Hear me clearly. Eve was also created to have an intimate relationship. Part of her existence was to assist in Adam in what God entrusted him with.
  3. If a husband is not submitted to Christ, his wife will not submit to him.
  4. If the wife is not submitted to Christ, she will not submit to her husband.
  5. If the husband is not submitted to Christ, he will not submit to his wife.

The commonality and consistency in the scripture is structure and order. God established structure and order in the church through Christ and paralleled it to marriage. Christ is the groom. The church is the bride. The bride is submitted to the groom–similarly a wife to her husband. Submission is the theme here. Submitted to Christ, submitted to each other and a woman being led by a man in marriage.

As you can tell, there’s no hint of vanity, lust, competition, any glimpses of an “alpha male” or “alpha female”, obscenity, poor communication, inconsistency, unfaithfulness, gossip or any other trait that’s destructive to an individual and a marriage. In Christ, love is pure, holy and sacred. In Christ, husband and wife work together, side by side. In Christ, a man is to always to protect and treat his wife with great honor. He’s to honor her when he’s in and out of his presence. What love and a relationship resemble in the world is one without Christ.

In the next part of this blog, I plan to provide examples of how a man of God longs to love his wife who is in Christ. Thanks for reading.

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The Fruit of Her Spirit

A soothing balm against my skin, a spirit possessing the fragrance of frankincense, I know I’m in the company of a true worshipper

With the gentleness of a dove, filled with the holiness of God and the fear of the Lord that rests on you, I know you are my answered prayer

My honor for you is deep and rich in-depth. How could I speak to you with profanity or raise my voice in violent rage when I have a bride who’s in Christ?

How could I peer at another woman when I waited so long for you and moved through disappointment after disappointment after disappointment? If I were to fear anything, it would be losing you. You were presented to me by the love, favor, grace and mercy of our Father 

I found a good woman

 

It was no secret you knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you

You saw love in my smile. You heard it in my words. You felt it in my touch. You discerned it in my spirit. I was more than an open book to you. You saw the dirt I was created from, the kind of spirit God breathed in me and when I became a living thing

I didn’t have to question you. Your love for me was parallel. You were faithful and respectful. I still had your undivided attention when I wasn’t in your presence. 

You passed through the outer courts of my heart, entered the inner and took a seat into the deep

 God gave you the wisdom and the oxygen to walk on my moon.

 Wisdom gave you the right words to say and when to say it. The oxygen allowed you to breathe in a space where other women couldn’t. You knew I was peculiar. You knew you had to be patient? You knew you had to walk in the love of God. You knew I walked with God, so you gave me the time to spend with Him. I love you more for that

You deserve the best of my efforts in loving you.

You deserve a wedding ring not found on earth or  could be brought with money. You deserve something that cannot be put together with human hands.

What I desire to give you is in heaven. I have faith and the favor of God that He will bless me with a gem from one of His treasures

I bow to you on this day

I bow to longevity

I bow to grow old with you

I bow to be faithful to you

I bow for you and no one else

 

I vow to be by your side in the winter and spring.

I vow to love you until I’m no more

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How a Man of God Longs to Love a godly Woman. The Introduction.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Apostle Paul

 

My attempt to describe the love God has for us would fall short. God’s love is far beyond human comprehension. His love is sublime. It’s perfect without defect. His love is revelatory, which means, there are so many facets about God that we’ll never know.  God is the definition of depth. He’s deep. He cannot be measured. That’s to say, His love is immeasurable. However, we can attest to the love of God on three basic levels. 1. We know God displayed His love when he sent His Son Jesus into the world to remove sin and it’s power over us. 2. We know the love of God through the free gift salvation (John 3:16). 3. We also know the love of God by what He Sent Jesus through. On the way to the cross, God allowed His Son to experience every horrible feeling that we encounter in life. From betrayal, abandonment, being mocked and talked about, enduring physical pain and humiliation, and separation from his Father. Jesus overcame it all. The love of God carried him through.  You’re not going to find to many people who are willing to sacrifice their life for you. God sent his Groom, Jesus, to get dirty so that His bride, the Church, could be clean. That’s love. Unimaginable love. Sacrificial love. Perfect love. Imagine a man loving his wife this way.  A man of God who’s willing to lay down his life without question is powerful. A man of God who’s willing to help you dig up and remove the remaining debris from your life that hinders you is a man who loves you. A man who’s patient and prays over all your imperfections is a man who loves you. He doesn’t mind getting dirty, so He can see the bride he married, clean.

I’m confident enough to say that men who seek after the deeper things of God have the ability to love a woman of God in extraordinary ways. This kind of love would sure frighten a woman who isn’t ready to be loved in the way that Christ loved the church. I met women who weren’t ready. I’ve learned you can’t give something special to someone who isn’t mature enough to handle or comprehend what you have to offer. A godly relationship/marriage takes humility, emotional and spiritual maturity to sustain. It also takes the power of prayer and consecration. You need the wisdom and knowledge of God to grow and protect the blessings He gives you.

God knows every detailed structure and contour of a woman’s soul, spiritual and emotional anatomy. He knows how much time she does and doesn’t spend time with him. He knows the surface and depth of her understanding of Him. He knows her fears, insecurities and strengths. He knows the hidden things in her heart.  He knows every single traumatic experience. He also knows her high points in life. He knows her success and victorious moments. Having this knowledge about her on hand enhances fellowship with her. This is not to say that women aren’t knowledgeable about God and the word. She’s there to also strengthen your walk with Christ too. My point is when two or three are gathered in Jesus name, He’s present (Matthew 18: 20). Christ should be present from the point you meet your wife, until the very moment you marry her. And Christ is still there when you have disagreements. Studying the word of God with her, fasting and praying together, is to love her the way Christ loved the Church (Ephesians 5:23). Dying daily to your shortcomings is loving her like Christ loved the church.  Spending quality time with her is too. Jesus invested a great deal of time with his disciples. He taught them how to pray, truths and secrets about the Kingdom of God they would later understand. He also imparted knowledge, wisdom and other spiritual gifts into their lives. He built up their faith and equipped them with tools to continue the work of the gospel. To love your wife the way Christ loved the church to spend time with the Father. You’re probably asking yourself what do I mean?  How does spending time with the Father relates to loving your wife that Christ loved the Church. Pull up John 5:19. Jesus said three things.

  1. “I can do nothing on my own.”
  2. “I only do what I see my Father doing.”
  3. “Whatever the Father does, the Son also does.”

First, Jesus acknowledges dependency on His Father. Jesus needed the strength of the Father to do His will. Second, Jesus only does what He can visibly/tangibly see His Father doing. The healing and miracles you read in the scriptures, God the Father showed him how to do it. Three, Jesus intimacy with the Father granted Him the same power and authority.  Now here’s the connection. For a man to love His wife in an extraordinary way, He must realize he can’t love her solely on his own experience. Besides, each woman isn’t the same. He must depend on Jesus to love with care and wisdom. Two, a husband must be able to see what Jesus is doing in their individuals lives and in the marriage.  If he takes his eyes of Christ, he takes his eyes of his wife. He will not be in tuned or recognize the source of problems that will arise and the important decisions they need to make as one in the marriage. He must keep God first. Last, when a husband has an intimate relationship with God, He’s given a measure of power and authority to lead in the relationship/marriage. He will be able to do the greater works Jesus talks about in John 14:12. The greater works are the healing and miracles. Imagine the wife or husband being diagnosed with some illness, and either could heal each other. You see all types of “relationship goal” captions in social media, as it relates to fitness, business or financial success. I’m not against health and wealth. However, incorporate some spiritual principles into your marriage. Having the power the power to heal, perform miracles and cast out unclean spirit is a power couple!

A man walking with God wants to love you the way Christ loved the church. He wants to love you to the point of drawing tears of joy. If you experienced the presence of God while simply waiting on Him in stillness and silence, I’m sure you found yourself in tears of joy. The love in God’s presence is just that powerful. Just the thought of God’s love and goodness, His grace and mercy alone, could leave you worshipping Him in silence and prostrate with tears of joy. Silence and stillness positions you to experience God in this way (Psalm 46:10). You are worshipping in Spirit and in Truth here. If you could connect to God this way, you could connect to a woman similarly. I’m not speaking of worshipping her. That’s absolutely forbidden. Your presence alone, while you’re sitting in stillness and silence with her, could bring tears of joy to her eyes. It’s not you. It’s He, the Holy Spirit in you, altering the atmosphere while you’re with her. He’s ushering the both of you into the presence of God. That’s fellowship. Later on, I will distinguish the difference between fellowship and a friendship. You should experience both with the love of your life.

The next part of this blog will be up soon.

 

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Something about Her

Melvin Davis

The thought of her is never force down on to paper.

She is the romantic period in this 21st century.

She is suitable like honey is to tea.

A whiff of her spirit is of the finest fragrance: Soft and alluring.

The aesthetic of her being came into existence by the breath of God.

I am made for her.

And she is the perfect gift that stops me from looking any further

She’s everything she needs to be for me.

If she gives me a chance by letting me into her heart, I’ll pluck strings she never knew she had

Her eyes would reflect the blue skies and the brilliance of white clouds in heaven

Her skin would glow like the streets of pure gold

Her hair would shine like the harp in the angels hand

I want to be the reason you glow.

I whispered selah into her ears, but…

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Before You ask “Will You” and Before You say, “I do.”

I’ve never been engaged or married. Never came close. I learned a lot from one serious relationship, yet I was never the relationship kind of guy. You may think otherwise. My writing content may suggest so, but I write with the aim in mind to prevent others from making critical mistakes. I write with the aim in mind for you to seek the will of God before you ask, “will you?” and before you say, “I do.” I always saw relationships as a serious long-term commitment. In a way, I viewed relationships like marriage. I saw a lot at stake. Relationships are a physical, emotional and spiritual investment. Lives intersect, experiences are exchanged, bonds develop and souls knit together. You almost become one. And you know what getting physical (sex) does. It heightens every emotion you have for that person and cements a spiritual bond that’s going to be tough to break when the relationship doesn’t work out. When God says, wait until marriage, it’s for your good.

At this stage in my life, I see investing time in people or getting into a relationship more critical than ever. Conversing and socializing with people are intentional. They will have purpose. I don’t believe in wasting time or getting into a committed relationship because I can or when the feeling of loneliness surface. I don’t approach love with a “see where it goes” attitude. Maybe that’s appropriate when you’re younger. But even in my youth, I still didn’t approach love that way. I knew the severity of it. I was aware of the impact it could have on my life and vice versa. People take it really hard when a relationship doesn’t work out and rightfully so. High expectations and promises at stake.

I challenge you to seek the will of God with all your mind, heart, soul and spirit. Get alone with God and get in His face. Ask yourself, am I in the will of God and if this relationship or marriage is what God has for me? No one is perfect, but God’s will is. Ups and downs, agreements and disagreements are inevitable. That’s called being human. That’s called growth and learning one another, however, when God hand is something, He protects and preserves it. He helps you grow in place where you may fall apart. People fall apart in tough places, because the grace to sustain what’s fractured isn’t there. There’s grace in the will of God.

The person God has for you is there to enjoy life with. They are there to help you fulfill the will of God. They are in your life to grow in Christ together. If you are second-guessing any decision you made and you don’t feel peace in your heart, investigate why. God will not hold back an answer from you.

I pray God’s love and protection, His grace and mercy, to cover your life. It’s in Jesus name that I pray, amen!

 

 

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What a Man Walking with God Longs For: A Peculiar Woman Pt. I #Proverbs31

For a man walking with God to find a holy and righteous woman in a committed relationship with Christ, the help and guidance of the Holy Spirit is needed. Walking with God and in self-control is also pertinent in avoiding deception. Fellowship with the Trinity, reading the Word of God and prayer is where discernment comes from. You don’t want to be misled or seduced by a woman who claims to have given their heart to Christ. You could tell if she truly has a relationship with Christ by the fruit she bears. Many popular/mega Christian Churches are secular, because their leaders who are pastoring them are. This happens when the leader isn’t living a holy and righteous life. The focus in ministry today is about who has the largest church. Large churches are built by the comfortable messages preached. Simply put, they’re afraid to teach the Gospel out of fear of offending people, which may translate to losing members. People have unfollowed me from sharing the truth. I’m fine with that. As long as they read the truth, they’re responsible for what they now know. This is a time to mature. Ministry today has less to do with signs, wonders, miracles and true spiritual transformation that could only happen by the presence of the Holy Spirit. Therefore, when you have secularism filtering into the church and a fraction of the truth taught, a body of secular Christians are produced. Consequently, you have Christians living secular lives, because their leaders aren’t encouraging them to live a holy and righteous life.

In the introduction of this blog, I explained how my preference in a Christian woman has changed. I credit my commitment to living a holy and righteous life. In addition, answering the call to deeper intimacy in Christ. I can’t see myself with a Christian woman modeling herself after the world and the secular entertainers she’s influenced by or content with not growing spiritually. God revealed to me you could still be unequally yoked with another Christian. You’re probably asking yourself, how is that possible. The answer lies Christians who to adapt the ways of world vs., the ones truly walking out their life in Christ.  Yes, you are in the world, but Christ teaches us to not conform to it. (John 17:16)

Before I move on to type of Christian woman walking with God looks like according to the word of God, and not the thoughts of Melvin Davis, I want make a brief point to women:

You have and will continue to come across Christian men who haven’t truly committed their life to Christ. They’re going to tempt you have sex, object to celibacy before marriage or approve moving in together when you aren’t married. To men, some Christian women may have the same influence on you as well. Marrying for the sake of making it “right” to have sex is still fornication. Lust was the motive to create a sacred union. It wasn’t God that brought you together in unity to become one flesh (Matthew 19:5). I urge both men and women to live their life in Christ, to pursue holiness and righteousness and to not be afraid of standing out. God called you apart. You were never meant to fit it.

This is the kind of Christian woman a man walking with God is praying for.

  1. A woman who’s Set Apart. A priest.

You must be holy because I, the LORD, am holy. I have set you apart from all other people to be my very own. -Leviticus 20:26

But you are the chosen race, the Kings priests, the holy nation, God’s own people, chosen to proclaim the wonderful acts of God, who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. 1 Peter 2:9

A priestly woman is set apart. She’s a woman living her life in Christ without one foot in the world. When you’re walking with God, you’re distinguishable, different, and peculiar. Some people may go on to describe you as “intriguing,” “different,” or  “unique.” A Christian believer may say, “You really are walking the walk.” It’s possible to be unequally yoked with another Christian.

There are some Christians who just refuse to fully surrender their life to Christ. It’s uncomfortable for them. They care about what others may think if they choose a life of holiness and righteousness. They’re afraid of not being able to have fun or being lonely. It saddens me they have listened to the lies of the adversary, the desire of their flesh and other Christians who have been taught the word of God incorrectly. As a result, they still do, watch and listen to what the world listens to you. 2 Timothy says, the NLT, “They will act religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly.”

A priest is compatible with a priest. In other words, two people pursuing holiness and righteousness are compatible with each other.  When two people aren’t, lifestyles and ways of thinking will clash. Arguments would  also occur as well as many moments of spending less time together. The individual fully surrender to Christ will desire like-minded company. The person who’s in the world will cling to similar company.

2. A woman of God who doesn’t fashion herself after the world.

The world comes up with a variety of terms and mantras to give women a sense of self-empowerment. I wonder why does a Christian woman need to be validated by the world when Christ knew you and set you apart before you were born (Jeremiah 1:5). Embracing secular terms don’t align with who Christ such as “Diva,” “bossgirl/bosslady” and “alpha female” are unbiblical. Acting “hood” is unbiblical too. Men also embrace these secular tags and model their behavior after them. Jesus, the Son of God, wasn’t and isn’t an alpha male, nor did he liken himself to one, yet He’s The King of Kings and Lord of Lords. I strongly suggest women look up the word diva to find out the origins of it.

A woman who’s walking with God models herself after the Fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23), which can be seen when you study the life of Christ in scripture. When you see Christ, you see the Holy Spirit. The book of Proverbs is a direct correlation of the wisdom of God on display through the life of Solomon (Isaiah 11:2 and Proverbs 1). Proverbs 31 is a direct correlation and representation of how Christ sees fit, of how His daughter, soon to be bride, and already bride, should carry herself. A woman who walks with God is confident, strong and humble. She’s a woman of faith and prayer, patience, love and joy, and more. She is the bride that Jesus sees.

3. A woman you can fellowship with.

I chose not to use the word “friendship” for a reason. There are two kinds of friendships: Christ-like and secular. As a believer, we have to balance the two. I say balance because we are called to share the Gospel of Christ with those who are living in the world and to strengthen other believers who have one foot in the world or are still maturing in their faith.

By fellowship, I’m speaking of a Christian woman you could enjoy being around. You could also have Bible study and pray together. You could really dig deeper into the deeper things of God, and not leave the conversation feeling you shouldn’t have discussed a particular topic. I’ve been there. Awkward feeling.

Conversation, chemistry, discussions and socializing runs much smoother when you’re engaging a woman who’s on the same walk in Christ as you are. It would be amazing to meet a woman who has the same spiritual goals as you do. I came across a prophet recently that the Holy Spirit led me to on Youtube. God reveals things both he and his wife at the same time. I thought to myself, how wonderful that is to experience things in the spiritual realm at the same time.

Fellowship in a relationship is important. It’s a sign of compatibility, and the two of you are on a track to grow spiritually.

  1. A woman of Humility

Vanity isn’t hard to find. In social media you’ll find vain, haughty, arrogant, conceit, sensuality and sexuality oozing from the images of women. Some women are constantly throwing themselves into social media to solicit attention, validation and self-worth. Even married ones. Men who give into these forms of seduction and desperate attempts of attention and validation are also walking in the lust of their flesh. They are looking to satisfy the lustful desire in the way these women are. Lust and holiness do not agree with each other.

A woman who possesses the spirit of humility doesn’t need throw herself at men. She’s confident enough in the timing of Christ to be sought (Proverbs 18:21.) Both men and women, who rely on their bodies to find love, haven’t discovered their identity in Christ. The Fruits of the Holy Spirit in you is as just attractive of the physique or beauty God has given you. However, when you rely solely on good looks, you will reap what you’re sowing. You may find an attractive or successful man by the way your present yourself, but that doesn’t guarantee you’ll land a committed and faithful husband who’s sold out to Christ. That goes for men too. “Arm candy or a “trophy” wife comes with a price. More than likely, it’s going to cost you $$$$.

Many Christians do drift away from the word of God. When this happens, they conform back to their old ways. Humility is who Christ is. He’s the perfect example and definition of humility. Look at him, then look at you.

5. A man who walks with God looks for a godly mother in a godly wife.

I pay close attention to how a woman talks and carries herself. It gives me insight to the kind of mother she would be. The vision that I have for my family is a Christ-centered one. With the help of my wife, I envision reading and teaching my children from the book of Proverbs. With my daughter, I would teach her about a virtuous woman, and the kind of woman she should avoid becoming and socializing with. I imagine teaching my son by about Adam and his rightful place in the Garden of Eden before the fall. I would transition out of the OT scriptures into the NT, and show them God’s remarkable plan of redemption through Jesus Christ. Christ will be there ultimate primary focus on conducting their self in a secular world. This is shortlist of how I want to raise my family with my wife. When it comes certain things I look for a woman, one certainly is a mother.

When I hear profanity leave a woman’s mouth, see herself posting seductive pictures and behaving haughty, I wonder how she’s like as mother. Children are like clay. They take on the shape of what they see, hear and what they are taught. If the mother has a nasty and sassy attitude, more than likely, the child would have one too. If the mother is living her life in Christ, more than likely, her children would too. I’m not speaking or a religious mother but one who has a relationship with Christ.

Men who are walking in the spirit aren’t moved the beauty of women. They see beyond the surface and into the spirit. Some women complain about not finding a good man or someone lost out on them. Perhaps your lack of commitment to Christ is the reason why the relationship didn’t work out or why the guy passed you up. God may have prevented a disastrous relationship and heartbreak. I wouldn’t pursue a woman who has no desire to give her life to Christ or grow in Him. Christ said, you don’t pour new wine into old wineskins. If so, the old wineskin would break (Matthew 9:17). In other words, praying for a godly husband when you aren’t living a holy, righteous and committed relationship with Christ isn’t going to work. You would be unequally yoked.

It’s my prayer that you seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness; so all the other things will be added to you (Matthew 6:33). God has great things in store for you, but you will only possess them with a transformed and renewed mind that comes by the reading of the word. Say goodbye to the past and what didn’t work out. Jesus loves you so much to allow you live below His will. Connect to Christ and fully surrender to Him. Get in the word so it can cleanse your spirit and transform your mind.

 

Note: The photos of women featured in my blogs are in no way a representation of a Christian or Proverbs 31 woman. I choose them because they’re elegant.

 

 

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Faith, love, marriage, Melvin Davis, Relationships

What a Man Walking with God Longs For: A Peculiar Woman #Proverbs31

While I still have a long way to go in maturing and reaching a certain level in my spiritual walk in Christ, I’m slowly taking on His image. I’m learning how to walk with God. Like an infant, I stumble and fall, but I get back up and persevere. I find the journey rewarding. Experiencing God in the spiritual realm is an experience words will do no justice  for. There are so many layers of God. Anyhow, my mind, the way I think, behave, interact and converse with people is all being transformed by the intimacy I’m developing with the Trinity. That’s to say, the kind of woman I long to be with has changed.

But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” -1 Samuel 16:7

In my youth, I was smitten by a woman’s beauty. I interpreted beauty as a sign from God that I found my wife. Like me, this changes for many people when you discovered the ugliness beneath physical attraction. You’ll find vanity, lust, sensuality, arrogance, self-absorbedness, judgment, dishonesty, unfaithfulness and rude behavior in beauty. Now, I look beyond the appearance of beauty. I see what’s inside the heart. I look at the fruit of the spirit. I long for a particular Christian woman.

There are two types of Christians. 1) The believer who acknowledges Jesus Christ, as Lord and Savior, but they aren’t in a committed relationship with Him. This person prays often. They may pick up the bible to read a few scriptures. They may attend church every (or every other) Sunday, however, what the individual engages in and believes doesn’t impact their lifestyle. When you are in a committed relationship with someone, your faithfulness to that person governs the decisions you make and how you interact with opposite sex. You wouldn’t flirt, hangout or spend quality time with someone else while you’re in a committed relationship. What seems innocent often leads to an emotional affair. Soon the emotional affair gives birth to a physical one. Now you have a spiritual affair. A soul-tie. 2) The other Christian walks with God. They’re in a committed relationship in Christ. Their time with God, praising and worshipping continues after Sunday service. This person spends quality time in God’s presence to build intimacy that would allow them to experience the depths of God’s glory and creation. This believer isn’t perfect by a long shot, but holiness and righteousness is their aim, desire and course of action of living life. They are faithful to God, which is evident in their lifestyle. Holiness and righteousness is not a religious attitude. It’s a lifestyle.  With that being said, I pray to marry a woman who walks with God and a woman that’s in a committed relationship with Christ and strives to live a life of holiness and righteousness.

If you were to ask me the question, how can I tell if a woman is walking with God or not. My answer is found in Matthew 7:16. The scripture reads, “By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thorn bushes, or figs from thistles?” I love the word of God so much. It truly is truth, light and life. Each verse is layered with revelations that only the Holy Spirit can reveal to the believer who’s filled with Him. This scripture alludes to spiritual discernment/gift of the discerning of spirits. Through discernment, you can tell what kind of fruit that lies in the spirit of a person, which translates to the conduct and behavior of a person, as in what the fruit bears. I examine the fruit a woman bears. This tells me about her relationship with God. I listen to what comes out of her mouth. I observe her actions & behaviors, how she thinks and reasons, what she shares and who she follows on social media—which all inherently point to if she’s in a committed relationship with Christ or not. I see her level of spiritual maturity and understanding of the word of God and the Trinity. I used to be the guy that engaged in secular things. My taste in music, conversation and what I watched on televisions did not reflect the holiness and righteousness of Christ. I filled my ears and eyes with profanity, coarse joking (humor that mocks the things of God and humor riddle with obscene/vulgar language) and all other things that are impure. When I was as a child, I reasoned and behaved like a child. I wasn’t aware of what I engaged in my prior life was affecting my relationship with God and other people. That was until God begin to speak to my spirit through dreams, divine encounters, visions and His word and became a man. I put away those childish things (1 Corinthians 13:11.) God made it a priority to let me know that’s He’s called me to a life of holiness. A priest lives a holy and righteous life. God said, because He is Holy, we should be holy ( Leviticus 20:26.) Those who walk with God refrain from all things that are secular and impure. We are in the world, but not of the world, which means, we don’t do what the world does (John 17:16). God’s holy priest seeks the deeper things of God. They desire to fellowship and serve God behind the veil.

Giving all that I’ve shared above, I am man who desires to marry a woman who walks with God. How awesome would it be to join a woman in marriage who’s living a holy and righteous life, who’s also seeking the deeper things of God. I seek to talk to God face-to-face like Moses did. I want to see all of God’s glory and to partner and converse with the angelic hosts. God wants to reveal Himself to all. He wants deep intimacy with you, however, only a few will want to go that deep. Matthew 22: 14, reads, “Many are called, but a few are chosen.” Many are called, because the arms of God are opened to all of his children. He doesn’t discriminate. He’s not a respecter of persons (Acts 10:34). The chosen are those who want to go deeper. They are the ones who step forward and apart from the millions who are standing on the front line. Some people are content with standing on the front line. Therefore, they never grow in Christ. They never truly experience God. The Bible rarely comes to life in their lives, therefore, it reads like a story and just a story. They live off the testimonies and revelations of others.  I want to be with a woman who’s also chosen. A woman who’s not just passionate about Christ, but committed to Christ. Passion doesn’t always translate into obedience and a changed lifestyle. I believe that every man who’s walking with God is praying to be with a woman who’s also walking with God and pursuing the deeper things of Him. That’s what spiritual compatibility looks like.

In the next part of the blog, I’ll break down the specs of what kind of woman a man walking with God longs for.

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